My mother doesn't let me do anything?

Question

My mom doesn't let me pluck my eyebrows, she doesn't let me wear makeup, she doesn't let me go out with my friends, she doesn't let me date, she practically holds me in a jail cell.

I'm her first born, so everyone tells me to be patient, but I'm fourteen. How can I make her understand me?

Answer 1

I understand your mom's rules. You are still young...14 is still young. I agree with your mom about the makeup and dating but she should let you go out with your friends. Maybe she could drop you off at a movie and pick you up. Maybe she could talk to your friends parents and that would make her feel better. Why don't you invite your friends over so she can get to know them a little bit and feel better about you going out with friends.  

Answer 2

well you're gona have to put ur foot down...she cant treat u like a baby forever. just tell her what u think of how she treats u and see what she tells you. she might think u are just going through moodiness because you are a teenager. just show your mom ur responsible and make deals w/ her.

ex. if u want to put make up tell her that if u get all A's and B's in your next report card she should let you. that's what i do w/ my mom and it works (im 14 also) hope i helped!!!

Answer 3

well im also 14 n i use 2 b more in2 guy stuff (str8 n have a bf ok) and my mom would always say 2 b more gurly bcuz if they have a daughter they want them 2 b a gurl not a tomboy, so 1 day when she was at work i did my eyebrows thin n it was of course my 1st time n they looked rly nice n all, so she didnt mind bcuz that means that i was turning more gurlier... n i wear make up n everything, i started around 12 going on 13, eye shadow, eyeliner, eyebrow pencil, mascarra, sometimes  powder or blush, but heres the thing, start off slow, start off with some eyeliner & or mascarra(your choice) & if your mom asks you what is that?! just tell her that you just wanted 2 try it ( n if she wears makeup she cannot!!! tell you anything bcuz she does it) so thats y when i have my children ima let them use makeup at age 13

Answer 4

Talk to your mom about how you feel. She sounds overprotective of you, and maybe she gets too strict. Assure her that u won't do anything bad. and with the eyebrows and makeup, tell her that u want to feel good about your self by looking good. with dating, maybe it's best for you to wait because nowadays even a first date can lead to something ..uhm u know. haha

Answer 5

I'm 21 and was in your shoes when I was younger.  It was horrible!!!!!  I had to live with this all my life, when I was 18 I moved far far away.  Then I came back home and my mother and I get along now, but that took forever.  I'm 21!!!!!!!!

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Im 13 and its the same way. Alot of people ask me on dates, but my mom said i can't date til im 15. I cant go to the movies or the mall with friends like a regualry person either. I feel the same way. Plus its summer too, i really want to go out and have something to tell my friends when i go back to school. GOOD LUCK with YOUR life!!!!

Answer 7

ure mom probably has a reason for not letting you do those things so you should probably discuss it with her and convince her to let you do what you want to do

Answer 8

Why do you want to wear makeup and pluck your eyebrows? You're at the age where your face will be at its natural best - do you really want to ruin all that with artificial chemicals? And if so, why? To impress your friends? To get boys? Those are bad reasons. You're fourteen. You do not need to wear makeup. You are doing yourself a huge favour by allowing the natural, real you to represent who you are, and not an array of garish artificial colours.

As for going our with your friends, that is a legitimate concern. What, specifically, do you do with your friends? If you're going out clubbing at night, I understand her concern. But otherwise, you need to talk to her reasonably and honestly. Don't sneak around - you must prove to her that you are responsible and can be trusted. Perhaps suggest to your mum that she let you out for an hour, just to hang with your friends, and show her by coming home on time and without having encountered trouble that you can absolutely be trusted.