My mother has been drinking almost all her life and will not stop?

Question

I try and do anything I can to make her stop, but she just will not do it. shes about 46 now. Whenever I mention her problem she will blame it on my father or just change the subject completely. She thinks it all, because of her marriage. Her mother did die awhile back...maybe 7-8 years ago at 57, because she was a very heavy drinker and I think that could be the problem. She doesn't work or anything she just sits there drinking whenever she can get her hands on it. Its getting way out of hand and I don't wanna lose her. Last year she almost died from some sort of flu or something. She has high blood pressure which makes her nerves just go totally out of bound. I need help to try and get her to stop this. I really don't want her to be like her mother. She doesn't want to go to the doctor either. Please Please help me.

Answer 1

You can't save people from themselves. Accept that your mother is going to die soon. Tell her you love her and you will miss her, but you are going to have to start planning for your life after she is gone. If you are a minor, look into getting emancipated so you can take care of yourself. Let her know you love her but it hurts you too much to see her killing herself every day.

Answer 2

I hate to be the pall bearer of bad news. If she doesn't want to stop drinking there is no way you are going to stop her unless she wants to stop drinking. The woman may not be able to stop if she wanted to.  

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear that, but you can do something about it. There are programs all over on the internet and you can enroll her in one of them. Just know that what you do for her is for her own good, and do not feel guilty or back down in what you believe in. Talk to a trustworthy adult, a counselor, or a doctor. Good Luck    

Answer 4

well u could call the doctor and have them come to ur house. tell her that she is hurting u by doing this and that you dont want to lose her tell her what you told us get her enrolled in aa (alcoholics annoymous)  

Answer 5

My mom and dad are both alcoholics and I just finally let it go.  I haven't given up on either of them, but I know that they are never going to quit.  So rather than getting upset every time I see one of them {they are divorced}, I just make sure that they know that I love them and their grandchildren love them and I'll even tell them that I hope they are around long enough to see them grow up a little bit.  But the bottom line is that unless she wants the help, there is only one thing you can do,  let her know how you feel, be honest w/her...drunk does't mean stupid, tell her you don't want to bury her in the next 5 or 10 years and leave the ball in her court.  I'm afraid you won't like her response, but I could be wrong, and I hope I am.  Good Luck Sweetie...I know it is hard.  

Answer 6

Take a look at this, it would be the best thing for you.  

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.h...

But I think one of the most important things to remember is to make sure you have a good life.  Be a little selfish and make sure you don't end up like your mother.  You life is very important too.  Try to move in with relatives if you can.