My mother has lost her mind?

Question

she has taken back her almost ex-hubby who has full-blown cheated on her at 3 times. he has moved in with each of these women. my mother took him back again. she is totally a dofferant person when she is with him. he is a controlling,manipulating, and sometimes violent man. a week ago she called me and cussed me out over my son who has been staying with her for the summer. now schools has started and it is time for him to come home. he is 16. she has threatened to "do whatever it takes to see to it that i lose my other son" if i force my older son to leave her and come home. now i find out last night she threw the loser out again. should i reconcile with her now that the bad influence is gone?

Answer 1

if she too him back the first time,he is gonna feel he can always treat her like dirt because he can get a way with it,just keep your guards up with  her because he will be back sry to say she's not gonna change either

Answer 2

To me it sounds like our mothers are quite alike... I have had to deal with the same type of man being with my mother for a while now... I have came to the following conclusions...

1. My mother is a grown woman and if she has decided that she is comfortable in her situation she wont come out of it until she gets fed up.

2. Its not worth me stressing over, due to #1

Women in these situations I have found dont really know what it is to have a good man.  Especially if they havent had a good man before, or if they have been with their bad man for a long time.  A lot of women are afriad of being alone.  Some women dont know what they are worth and dont think that they are worthy of a man that will treat them like a queen.  Whatever the case may be a woman has to get good and tired.  Even if she has kicked out a boyfriend, 9 times out of 10 if she isnt fed up, you will see him again in a week or two.

As far as making up with your mother... Well me making up with my mother, I had to learn to forgive her, but give her tough love.  I told her how I felt and then told her she needed to do what was best for her and her children.  And until she makes that right decision, I didnt want anything to do with her.  If you are a christian read your bible. In the bible it says that you should cut off branches that do not bear fruit.  If she isnt bearing fruit in your life, or if she is causing more bad than good remove yourself for a while.  If your mother is causing more problems in your life cutting her off might be the push in the right direction she needs.

I hope this is a help to you

God Bless.  

Answer 3

she is your mum. am sure she is feeling rotten and needs yr support. go call her !

Answer 4

Well depends how old she is and how ugly he is. If this is the case its just for the s*x.

Answer 5

I think you need to stop worrying about your relationship with your mother and focus on your children and their well being. You think your mother is crazy yet you allow your son to stay with her all summer? Do what is right for your kids first, then figure things out with your mom if you want.

Answer 6

Your mother obviously needs help.  Once your son comes home you need to urge her to seek counselling.  No matter how manipulative and crazy her ex is, this sort of behavior indicates a more serious pathology and is probably something she should not deal with on her own.

Answer 7

okay first of all if your mom is stupid enuff to take the idiot back shes asking for whatever she gets.(physically or emotionally) you cant feel sorry for her because...you just can feel sorry for dumb people that know better. And second if you haven't done anything to get your son taken away then don't worry about it.

Get your son and don't let him go back to the crazy woman's house.

Especially if that man is there. If she tries to keep your son or whatever then threaten to go to the police.

Hope everything works out for you.(: