My mother-in-law drives me crazy!!

Question

I have been married to the love of my life for 1 year and she cannot go a day without visiting her parents for several hours and she always has to "check in" with her mom. When we are alone, her mom will call literally every hour or two to check on her. Her family is cool, but her mom drives me crazy, she is mexican and sometimes she comes off very rude. I'm a college student and she is consistently trying to pressure me into buying a house for my wife. Excuse me, but im still in college! I dont want to be in debt now, also she tries to act like she must know everything we do all the time and I feel so much frustration when dealing with this, it just seems like my wife is too dependent on her mom. Her mom annoys the h**l out of me, she always talks and talks and talks about the same stuff over and over again and its always about other peoples problems that has nothing to with my wife or the family. She doesnt have a job yet she is "never wrong" and acts like she knows everything. Im good at bluffing it and being polite on the outside, but inside I want to tell her to shut the h**l up. Am I just overreacting? What should I do?

Answer 1

welcome to the rest of your life.  as long as you set back ,be polite your mother in law will  will run your home how ever she feels like it. you need to have the first talk with your wife. tell her enough is enough. you are the man of your house and  do not need  the in put of your mother in law. i doubt this talk will do any good but i would still talk to your wife first.  next time her mom butts in then politely tell her  its not her problem and you will figure out the  answer on your own. now we know being polite has not worked in the pass and most likely it wont this time either but,  the next time she calls and butts in tell her  not so politely to mind her own business. then tell your wife (not so politely) that if she runs to her mother for advise one more time then your out of there and her and you wish her and her mother a good life.  you say shes the love of your life  but clearly you are not the love of her life, her mother is. she has proved over and over again the she does not have any faith in you  as her husband much less think of you as the head of your home. if you do not put a stop to this now then you know how the rest of your life will be. if you think its bad now wait til you have children. i promise you , you will have very little say in the up bring of your own children. i know you love your wife but you have let her and her mom take away your manhood.  if you dont take back your manhood and pride   asap then you are doomed to be a little man with no say in your new home that mom has picked out for her daughter.  its up to you now. good luck to you.you are going need it.  

Answer 2

Like I tell my Friends....   you dont just marry one person you marry their ENTIRE FAMILY

Ok this is what you do...Talk to your wife and tell her in a very loving way that her mother is calling way too much and to  let the  answering machine pick up the phone instead a few times, you will have to wein your wife off of her mother or her Mother will end up controlling YOUR MARRIAGE   then it will be over. It is none of her business when you will buy a house! Be responsible and just tell her  " Whe we can afford a nice home you will be the first to know" and thats it keep repeating this to her !! When she brings up other peoples problems just say   gee that too bad- I am glad that not my problem and walk away.

arent you glad thats not your problem Mothernlaw?

If your Motherinlaw wants to know everything you do tell her  you are having s*x and will call her back! This one works !

Where is her husband ...can you talk to him ?

better put your foot down or This marriage is over soon.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Whew, this sort of sounds like my mother. Healthy boundaries have to be set and obviously your wife hasn't set them. There needs to be certain things that are your (your and your wife's) business and stay that way. Let you wife know it's bothering you. Keeping it all bottled up isn't doing you any good and it only gives way for an explosion later. Put the phone on silent for awhile. This is you and your wife's relationship. Mom's gonna have to back off a bit.

Answer 4

You can't do much now but after you graduate put in for a job on the other side of the country. I'm serious. It worked for me.

Answer 5

You need to talk to your wife and ask her not to tell her mother about things that are going on in your marriage.  If her mom is so concerned about her daughter living in a house, then she should buy her on and stop expecting you to while you're in college.  Ask your wife he she could cut back on the phone calls to her mom.

Answer 6

Tell your wife to calm down on the calling at all hours, when you are home you don't want her to call simple as that.