My mother-in-law gave my daughter a benedryl when at her house, now she asks for a pill to help her sleep!

Question

My husband and I have been separated since march, we have 2 children and I am their primary care taker, supporter, therapists, full time mom and I run a business. They are 10 yrs old twins ( boy and girl). My husband is on medication and I am not. My husband and I have been recently trying to work out our differences and he has been spending alot of time at my house with me and the kids. Last night my son comes in the kitchen and says he has a headache can he have a pill, the night before last he asked me for a pill to help him go to sleep. This has all happened since my mother-in-law kept them one day when I was working and my daughters eyes were red and puffy and she gave her a benedryl (pink and white capsule) and she slept all day. Now they say "can I have a pill"? My husband is freaking out and I am trying to explain to him this is not something that has been going on forever, this is a new thing, and it was since they went to his mothers and he is angry, and confused and thinks that I have been giving them pills. He has a bad history of addiction and is afraid this is the writing on the wall. But he is making me feel like he is just wanting to blame me and says I am trying to blame it on someone other than myself. How should I handle this, I don't want to hurt anyones feelings and I have not been giving my children pills(for gods sake) and they don't even understand what it sounds like. I have explained to them if they have trouble sleeping a "pill" is not the answer, and to read or I read to them. They are only 10! But he is truly going overboard with his assumptions and accusations.

Answer 1

I THINK U ARE TOTALLY RIGHT,,HIS MOM SHOULD NEVER GIVE A CHILD A PILL TO HELP THEM SLEEP.HOW R U OR THERE DAD REALLY GOING TO NO IN THE FUTURE IF THEY REALLY DO HAVE A HEAD ACHE,PEACE

Answer 2

Tell your husband the truth and s***w your mil "feelings".

Next explain to your kids, that the ONLY time we take medicine is when we are sick.If your son has trouble sleeping ,then no sugar or anything with caffein after 6 P.M. see that he goes out and plays a while ,get him something to read that he enjoys)I used to read comic books).

Tell your husband your mother in law gave them the pills, but in your daughter's case, that was a good idea, but try another type of allergy medicine that doesn't make her drowsy.

Answer 3

Your mother in law give your child drugs but you don't want your husband to know?  How mixed up can you get?  Tell your husband that his mother gave your child Benedryl and that is where the kid got the idea that he needs a pill to sleep.  I would also call the mother in law up and tell her to cease drugging your children unless YOU give her instructions to do so or they have a prescription.  Then tell her next time you will turn her into CPS if she doesn't follow YOUR rules.