My mother-in-law is sooo obviously downstairs smoking,,,?

Question

the house reeeeeks this morning! my husband is acting like he can't smell it, she'll den y it and say she was smoking outside and it must have wafted in.

we have a baby and a 3 year old, i don't want them to have to breathe that c**p, not to mention grandpa is on OXYGEN!!! ugh!

what to do??????

Answer 1

My father smoked around my sister and I when we were babies and children, and we didn't end up sick or have diseases. I think you want it to stop more for you than anyone else.

Stop being the rotten daughter in-law and let her smoke inside.  

Answer 2

Get your husband to understand how serious this is and have him support you.

Go downstairs with the room deodorizer for smoking and be clear about this once and for all.

Explain that yes it may have drifted in from the window, so you need her to be far away from the door and have all the windows closed if she's going for a smoke.

All the best.

Answer 3

Simply ask her to smoke outside. A common rule for many households. Maybe put an astray outside for her.

Answer 4

Maybe set up a little area outside for her to smoke, and hint at her to use it. Maybe put a chair, ashtray and magazine outside.

Answer 5

Who's house is it?  While its rude and unhealthy in any case, if its her house, she can do what she wants.  If its yours, pick up some no smoking signs.

Answer 6

Ask her to smoke outside and open the windows so that the house can air out

Ask her to smoke away from windows

Answer 7

Its your house and you definitely should keep control. Confidently go up to her and politely ask her to smoke outside as it is quite unhealthy for her grandchildren to be smelling second hand smoke which is worse than actually smoking. Its nothing to be ashamed of.  

Answer 8

If she says it 'wafted' in the house, tell her to move further away from the house so it doesn't happen again.

You shouldn't have to put up with it if you don't want to, tell her she needs to respect your wishes, stop smoking or get out.

Answer 9

Alright. Well first politely say " Can you please smoke outside?" and Spray febreze, works wonders!

Answer 10

Tell her politely that either she can shut the door, or not smoke in the house and if she does, move out or kick them out.  Post blow up signs for the oxygen all over.  Maybe get the doctor to talk to her about it.

Answer 11

Tell her about SIDS and cigarette smoke.  Tell her that she is putting the health of her grandchildren at risk.  Tell her that if she cannot stop her smoke wafting into the house - she needs to stop smoking.  Or move out.    

Answer 12

Just some food for thought...my sister was diagnosed with emphysema a few months ago having never smoked a cigarette in her life. My parents were smokers as was her husband. She also owns a restaurant and before smoking laws were in place she was subjected to second hand smoke everyday for years.

Her emphysema is caused by second hand smoke......insist on NO SMOKING anywhere around your house PERIOD!

Answer 13

Tell her that you can smell the cigerette smoke thru out the house and you don't want your babies breathing it in. Simple as that. She has to go outside. She needs to respect you, your husband and your kids. Your house, your rules!  

Answer 14

That is really nasty.  Call her out on it and ask her in the future to make sure no smokes "wafts in" to where your children are breathing, from anyplace.