My mother-in-law has tried to sabotage so many aspects of our marriage. Though we had been dating for eight years prior to our marriage, she was "shocked" at our engagement and tried to do what she could to ruin our engagement period. She told everyone at our engagement party that she didn't approve of our marriage, she told me about my surprise bridal shower on purpose, she told us that I was dishonoring my deceased father's memory by getting married so close after his death (his dying wish was that we married), do you see a pattern? That is just a small sampling of terrible things that she did. On the day of our wedding, she was miserable to the point that the videographer (who knew nothing about our situation) told us he stopping including her in the footage because he didn't think we wanted to remember how she acted.
After the wedding I tried in vain to move forward for the sake of my husband. In the seven (happy) years that we have been married, we have had several similar horrible incidents, all about control, all over some stupid detail that she turns into a huge incident (i.e. we didn't call her at the exact time she expected us to). She has blatantly made up lies about things that me and my family have supposedly said and done to gain other people's negative opinion of me. I honestly have tried and tried to keep my mouth shut save for a few blowups but this week she called us after not talking to us for eight weeks because she felt that her son hasn't called her enough to specifically say "Mom, what can I do for you?" which she feels she is owed because she raised him. I kid you not, I am not exaggerating.
After a two-hour screaming match in which every hurtful thing she has done to us came up, she told my husband and me that she has evidence that my family and I hatched a plan to coerce him into marrying me. To say that couldn't be farther from the truth is putting it mildly. She called me things like "missy" and "little girl" and "toots" when addressing me in this conversation and said that I am to respect her because she is my husband's mother and the grandmother of my children.
I want to cut off all ties at this point since she obviously has no respect for me and for my marriage, my husband is having a difficult time agreeing. I have put up with so much, but now I feel that the relationship has been ruined beyond a point of return. She would never agree to family counseling, which I would be totally open to, and she would never admit she's done anything wrong. I realize this is one side of the story, but I am being open and honest in hopes to get some advice. I really am at a loss for what to do at this point.
The thing that kills me is that I would give anything to have my father in my life and know my children. She has the priveledge of knowing her grandchildren and I now have to protect them from seeing this sick behavior.
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