My mother in law keeps butting in ?

Question

since me and my husband have moved back into the city where both of our families lives, my mother in law keeps calling and everything else. She takes my husband to work and picks him up . You would think that would be enough but it isn't ( she has a family of her own). she calls almost every day usually about an hour after she drops him off and sometimes several times after that. Sometimes it's her that finds out the important stuff about my husband First and not me. I have expressed this to my husband but it seems to do nothing about it because it still continues. I I didn't marry my mother in law I married him and i want her to back off. I'm to the point where i want to leave because of her.

Answer 1

Can you make her jealous with your father in law?

Answer 2

There is no competition between you and her.

It does not matter if she knows first, what matters is that he is not keeping you out of the loop.

I could see if he was telling her and not telling you...then you would have a reason to be mad.

I do understand you being angry about her calling so often, but you also have to try to understand that she is making up for lost time.

She is excited that her son moved back.

Let go of the anger or this will only get worse.

Something is wrong with the way your husband is handling this.

He doesn't want to come to you first because he is being pushed to choose.

Give him some space and see what happens.

If he closes you out anyway, then there is something he is not telling you about his perception of the relationship.

Best wishes

Answer 3

Tell him again just how strongly you feel about this situation.It seems that his mother is just happy to have him back home again,and probably doesn't realize how much of a problem she is causing.You probably became use to having your husband to yourself ,before you guys moved home,where your families are. Is there any other way for your husband to get back and forth to work?Him finding other means of transportation,will probably help alleviate the problem,or you could consider speaking to your mother in-law yourself ,in a kind  and understanding manner.

Answer 4

Explain to your husband. I know you mentioned it to him but tell him that you're serious about this and that you'll potentially leave him. Tell him that he needs to be man enough and get himself to work instead of my mama taking him to work.  

Answer 5

You are corrected you did not marry your mother in law but the issues you have are with your husband not her.  He is the one who brings her into your business.  He has no issue with her behavior and you are not going to change their relationship.  I have said many times that a daughter in law can not stop her husband from calling, visiting, or having a relationship with his mother.  This is an example of it.  

It is up to your hubby to tell you first and realize that a wife is a partner.  Some things do not need to be shared they are to be personal between the both of you.  It's ok to share with mom and see her but not everything.  Why is his mom playing taxi to a grown man?

Just know his mom is not your competition.  You need to have a serious talk with him and let him know your not looking for him to cut her off but say what you do want.