My mother in law wanted me to bring her place after delivery

Question

but i want care from my own mother as m not ready to shift to mother in law's place,what to do?

this is the biggest tension when my delivery time is coming near

what to do?i am 34 weeks preggo

Answer 1

I think it's great that your mother in law cares enough to want to take care of you after delivery. However, if you are uncomfortable with it, by all means, do what needs to be done. If your mom is available, be nice, express gratitude, but tell her your mom already made plans for you to be with her.

If your mom isn't available, then maybe reconsider, or if possible, split your time between the two. When you need the most coddling, stay with your mom. When you have some strength, stay with your mom-in-law. I don't mean switch every other day, but maybe split it up by a month here and a month there.

As someone else said though, worry about that when that happens. You need to focus on you and your baby. Everything else will fall into place.

Answer 2

You would be much more comfortable receiving care from your own mother. Also, if you shift to mother-in-law's place you might feel more restricted.

Answer 3

    

   madame, first thing first. concentrate on your pregnancy first. have an easy birth. then think of other problems. in life nobody must control you. you must make your own decisions. when you are in trouble nobody will come forward to help. good luck.

Answer 4

Try to stay with your mom, there's no one better than her to take care of you and your baby. Make your own decisions don't let nobody do that for you. Tell your mother in law a good excuse and stay with your mom.

Answer 5

Hi shya,

First thing is what do you want to do???  what matters is your need if have worry's any other kind talk with your husband and get him to help you communicate with your mother-law as i would think he would also want best for you.  explain to your husband that you may require long rest when baby arrives and you feel that your mother understand your need better lot better and you won't wanna give his mother extra stress by weighting on her which may be diffcult to explain for you to his mum so I feel you need your husband advocating you..

see how he feels and let him make best decssion, am sure he would want best for you and his child.

hunny its best time when mother-law can create most diffculites for your rest of your life, having husband your side will make all the difference  

Answer 6

Tell your mother in law u love her respect her and u know she wants to

take care of her grand baby but u will feel more comfortable in your mom house and according to indian culture babys r born in mayaka

and tell her she is welcome to visit her any time and after delivery u may spend some time with her too.