My mother passed away and I am scared?

Question

I am a 24 year old mother of 4 children and 1 on the way(any day now),my mother passed away in December,Her and I was not always close but became VERY close,so close that she was dieing of cancer and I was the only one of her kids that was taking care of her on a daily basis,My mother held my hand threw having my children,My last son we had to have emergency c-section his heart rate was not raising and the Dr's were scared and so was I and I was crying and she came to my bed side and wiped my tears and said "Don't cry hun",I watched my mother take her last breath in a hospital bed and losing her has been very hard on me,My father has started dating 3 months after she passed and everyone else has pretty much forgotten all about her,She was a amazing woman and a very hard worker,I am scared that when I have this baby I am going to be so depressed that my mother is not there,How can I help myself not be so depressed?and please do not tell me that just to remember she is there with me even thought I can not see her,that really does not help.

Can anyone help me?or is it something I have to figure out on my own?

Answer 1

no i totally understand. i think its even harder for u to c ur father already dating someone cuz i know that would hurt me. but i know ur other family memebers still think about her 24-7 they probably just dont show it. but if u keep crying and crying because u miss her, your going to lose your life. your gonna ignore ur kids and be a lazy and depressed all the time. and ur kids dont need to c u crying. im not saying its not ok to cry, it is but dont put it all out there on ur self it will get better. god bless u and ur family. email me if u wld like to talk any time.

Answer 2

im goin gto be honest...i dont feel bad for you...and its not in a bad way. just everyone should understand that you dont need anyone to feel bad for you because it makes things worst.

when i started reading your quetions my eyes got so teary because it reminded me of when my grandfather died. 2years later, i became pregnant...and guess what...i was due the exact same day of his birthday (april 18 2008).

i dont know about u but i believe in reincarnation. unfortunatly i had a misscarriage and lost both my baby and my grandfather.

dont u think being pregnant after you mother died isnt a sign??

look deeper into reincarnation and you will understand what im talking about.

be strong because your kids need you!!

hope you the best for you and you kids...especially this little one =)

Answer 3

Talk to your obstetrician about this. He can help you deal with any post partum depression. He knows what is best for you and your baby.