My mum has a emotionally abusive bf

Question

shes been with him for 8 years he starts fights with me then acts like to my mum i started it and it makes her upset with me,hes a pervert he would only buy short reveling clothes for me when i was younger hes made my mum really insecure he tells ppl off in the street for the smallest things he stops my mum from going out he threatens to leave if she goes to club or pub yet my mum still stays with him she always says she is going to leave him hes caused alot of problems for me i want him gone for good but how do i help my mum get rid of him when she wont

Answer 1

oh god hun, youve got yourself a real problem. if you want to take illegal action, i suggest you get a bat and beat him when hes asleep. BUT if you want to take legal action, then you either call the abusive relationship hotline, or go on a talk show like dr phil, or have your mom meet a REAL man. im sorry i cant help that much, i feel bad for you, but i hope this helped.

Answer 2

This is very hard, i know how you feel, i went thru the same thing with my mother when i was younger. I begged my mother to leave and she said that she would but i was still waiting for that day to come. in the end she did leave and it was hard. I asked why she waited to long and she told me that she was scared to be lone with no one to love her. My love at the time wasn't enough. you have to hang in there. be with her as much as you can tell her that you love her and that things will get better one day.

I know that this is going to be hard for you. but you have to hang in there.

I wish you luck, I really do.

Just remember that your mum loves you!

Answer 3

For one, how old r u ? If you are ols enough like 18 you are old enough to tell her if she doesn't get rid of him that you r going to leave and go somewhere else to live. You never know about these kind of men.

Answer 4

honey there nothing you can do only tell your mum what you are feeling in the hope she will lissen to you. shes an adult and can make up her own mind who she wishes to see. just as you can make up your own mind who you pick as friends your mum dont have to like them but its your choice. it sux he treats her so bad and i am sure she deserves better but she has to learn for herself. by the way if he is a perv keep your distance love and be careful.  

Answer 5

I've had a problem like this. It only leads to worse things, such as physical abuse. Tell your mom how strongly you feel about it, and just talk to her about the way he treats you and her, and get her to reflect on her unhealthy relationship. It can be very difficult to help her get away from him, so if you can find another adult to trust in who can maybe help, maybe even a friend/family member of your mom's who cares about her, you can do a sort of "intervention", and try to make her realize this relationship is going down a bad road. Be persistent, and don't back down about how you feel. If you behave strongly enough, she may realize how you feel and open her eyes to what's going on, and try to change it.

Hope I've helped; in my own experience, it wasn't easy, but this is the best way I can think of to try to handle it before it gets too out of hand. =)