My mum has forbidden me to see my step brother?

Question

I understand where my mum and his dad are coming from but I feel so hurt. On tuesday my mum is coming to my flat to take me home and I won't be allowed to see Andrew - my step brother again. His dad has disowned him and has told Andrew that if he doesn't stop seeing me he'll cut off all contact with him.

Andrew and I are both twenty years old and currently living on opposite side of town. I've know for a couple years that he loves me and I've recently discovered my own feelings for him. We've been step siblings for almost 11 years. Our parents found out when his older brother Patrick told his dad that he'd seen me and Andrew together in bed this morning with all out clothes on the floor leading to the bed. I was drunk as I'd been out drinking with friends and Andrew happened to be in the same club I was and said he'd look after me after all my friends had left me in the club. I want to develope a romantic relationship with Andrew but I can't because don't want him to loose his dad because he is Andrew's only parent. I can't look my youngest brother in the eye because I'm ashamed of everything that is going on in my family now because of me.

I know I posted a question not that long ago but since I posted it everything has changed.

Answer 1

Yeah,  my mother stopped me from seeing my Step-sister.

Mind you......... Its my fault for getting her Pregnant.

Answer 2

If you are twenty years old can you not see your step-brother? Maybe get a train and go and see him in private? without your parents knowing? In my opinion, for the sake of yours and his parents, you should try to keep this away from them. It will only cause trouble.  

Answer 3

For the sake of your step-brother talk to you parents. This is not fair let them know that this will not continue.  

Answer 4

I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you actually do LOVE LOVE eachother. It's not like your genetically related. Just make sure that you're both certain that your feelings aren't just the love that you might feel for a sibling or another close family member, otherwise you might regret it.

All that being said, I would not advise you to get involved with him because, if anything went wrong, it would put an enourmous strain on your family. Make sure you know the risks before you get involved, and decide if its worth all of the costs.

Good luck!

Answer 5

You've been family for 11 years, and are 20 now? That means that you 2 were raised together AS siblings since the age of 9. Mom and dad have every right to be upset. This is a boy you've known since you were a child.. one you lived under the same roof with, fought with, played with, grew with, had family dinners with. This isn't some random man, who if things were to fail romantically with you, that you would be able to just forget, and move on from. This man is your step-BROTHER. He's more brother at this point, than step. Girl, think about it, things now, are hard enough.. your parents knowing you've been together. Imagine what happens if you and he try things romantically (further than you already have) and then.. it doesn't work? You're both still young, you know as well as I do not many people find "the one" at age 20. So what are the odds that this man is YOUR one?

I think you should forget him in the sexual sense. And keep him as a brother.. keep your family intact. Don't destroy it over something that most likely is only and infatuation that will pass.

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with sleeping with your step brother. had you met him before your parents met eachother, would they have not gotten married?

Answer 7

Thats sick. You'll have deformed babies. Don't do it...

Answer 8

Write them both a letter, your mum and whoever else is involved. Say it is not right to disown Andrew any more than to disown you. Further say that considering your age (if over 18 all the better) that you won't be the first to have a romance with a step sibling, or even marry one.

I think your entire family are gits, the one arranging this separation. It is too much like the victorian days of bull-spit purity. A pig's ear that generation made of it.

"For freedom of the heart"

Answer 9

What's the question?

Your  mom cut you off from him because she doesn't think that it's right for you to sleep with your brother..

Answer 10

I feel the best people in this situation to talk to would be you family.

Answer 11

LOL YOUR TWO ARE ON YAHOO TOGETHER?

just bloody email him

and you are a dirty girl! you should be ashamed

Answer 12

wow, well u hav to ask urself is it really him u want, will it be worth it to lose ur family over. bare it mind ur family is only tryin to protect u. cause in this world there is cruelty and ur realationship with ur step brother will not be taking lightly so ask urself is it worth it to lose ur friends and family to. is he the guy u really want!!!

Answer 13

you an adult your mum cant do anything unlike San Andreas Incest isn't illegal here