My mum is an alcoholic....?

Question

she has been for a couple of years now but these last few months she has started to get better, but last night she had a relapse and things are now really bad, she wandered off this morning and my dad is out looking for her. i dont know what to do.....any advice?

Answer 1

Just try to stay as calm as you can and hope for the best. Sometimes you really cannot do much in situations like these. Talk to your dad as soon as you can about sending your mother to rehab because she needs proffesional help. I hope you havea good relationship with him so that you two can come up with something. Good luck!

Answer 2

she should get help either go to AA or to rehab otherwise things will get even worse.

Answer 3

i'm sorry to hear this. there really is nothing you can do to help your mother.  it's not fair because she can drink, and involve you and other family in her addiction, and you cannot stop the effects it has on you.  if i were you i'd try to find a local Al-anon group in your area.  Al-anon is the same as an Alcoholics Anonymous accept it's for the people who are dealing with an alcoholic in their lives.  they themselves are not alcoholics.  there, you can find support from others who have been, or still are in, your predicament.

also - write your mother a very personal letter.  in great detail, explain why it is her drinking hurts you so much.  in the letter, remind her of examples of some things she's done while drunk/drinking.  also tell her you love her and that her drinking is hurting you.

the purpose of this letter is not to make her stop drinking, as you cannot make anyone do anything they don't want to do, but it is for you.  it's a release, a way to express your concerns and feelings to your mother without interruption, and it's very therapeutic.  give the letter to your mom as soon as you've finished and have decided you like what you've written.  she may want to talk about it, and that's fine, but don't be surprised if any results come from your letter, don't last long.  

alcoholics don't know why they drink, they don't know how to stop, and authorities can't even really put a finger on why people become addicted to alcohol in the first place.  so - if NOBODY knows, your mom doesn't either.

i know it's hard but you must try to be patient.   good luck!

Answer 4

The more she knows that she is destroying your lives by doing this she may want to seek help more. Talk to her and tell her your feelings. Tell her you want her to stop.