My mum is setting on ruining my life, please help me!!?

Question

well I'm due to start year 11 in september but the thing is my mum wants to move house. she loves the area but wants to be by the coast cuz she was brought up by the sea. i only have one more year left of school and she said she doesn't want to wait that long. so if she finds a house and she likes it she will move. That probs means i will have to start year 10 again cuz differ schools do differ subjects course and differ modules. and i cant wait til i leave school but i might have to do another year. and i've tried telling her my opinion about it being my last year , etc ,etc. but she wont listen, she doesnt care about me and my education. i know she is selfish but what am i gonna do ? i hate making new friends cuz i get bullied as i am ugly and look like a boy, and i know this as i have moved to 3 differ schools thru my secondary education and i have been bullied every single time !!!

please help me

how can i make friends more easily?

i feel depressed as i can't go to school without thinking one of these days could be my last day!

can you just tell me what you think and any advice you can give me ??

thanxs a lot

x

Answer 1

oh god, i feel really sorry for you! and has for the people who bully you, they only do it because they are insecure about themselves and you should really tell someone.

As for your mum you need to both sit down an discuss whats going to happen, give her your side and let her now about school and how you feel about it all!but also understand her side too!

Goodluck

x

Answer 2

well just be your self, dont be shy

and tell your teachers about what your mum is trying to do, they will talk to her and explain its very important.

i also start yr 11 in sept :)

Answer 3

o that is cool

Answer 4

I don'nt think i could take it either

Answer 5

Sarah honey, I think that you may be best speaking to childline, freephone 0800 1111 (if you call from home it doesn't show up on the bill but may be more private if you ring from a payphone).

Below is a link to their webpage so you can see what they do.  I have had personal experience of calling them myself and found it to be so helpful!

Unfortunately there are some people on here who seem to take delight in being cruel to those who ask questions when they are seriously asking for help.  

I am 27 years old now but when I was younger I have experienced so many things that you describe, and so if you would like me to, I will contact you via your ID on this site and give you the best advice I can.  I just am unable to do so now because I'm at work.

Hope I can help you out tho!

Answer 6

Honestly unless you are going to get a job and become self-sufficient then move out into your own place... You have to move where she says to move. It doesn't sound like you like the school you're at because you've been bullied there anyway...

Think of this as an oppurtunity and just focus these last two years on getting into a good college and having fun! If you are insecure about your looks then just completely reinvent yourself for the new school year. You can be whoever you want to be at this new school... no one there knows about your past. Get a makeover... new hairstlye, some makeup and cool clothes. Tell your mom that you would feel more comfortable at the new school if you had cool new stuff to start the year with--- she should have no problem springing for the new stuff. And that's not selfish at all. You should be able to get something out of the deal right?

Answer 7

if she were moving do to her job, I could understand but just moving cuz she wants to be near the beach is SO unfair to you. She should stop and think and put you first right now. You shouldn't have to change schools just cuz she wants to move. It's unfair to you.

Maybe you could stay with friends durning the school week and see her on weekends? Just an idea.

Answer 8

send me a picture of yourself and if they bully you ill sort them out lol,,mothers can be impossible to live with just keep focus on your studies and youll be free in no time..

Answer 9

Okay you should have a really deep conversation with your mum about this, tell her you care a great deal about your education. If you only have a year left you should finish it in the school that you started . Tell her you dont want to go to another school to start in year 10 again, whats the point when you are on your last year.Say to her it would be better if you moved after your school days are over, and if your planning on college then you shall find one about where you move to, and you'll make new friends there anyway. Good luck!

Answer 10

BOO! Mum!

If I were your Mum I would wait, year 11 is a big year ( my daughter starts it too in sept)

Can't you stay with relatives or a family friend?

She does seem selfish to drag you away like this.

Answer 11

See if your aunt or somebody close to you can talk to your mother, maybe your counsuler from school.

Sorry about the mom you got, I hope someday you stay far away from her as she doesn't even care to build a relationship with you.

Stop looking like a boy if you don't like your looks fix them. Lose weight and put a little make up,  you can be more friendly if you want.  

Answer 12

First off lets start by clarifying this ugly image you have of yourself. Ugly is as ugly does, its not an image thing because that's so superficial, and besides I bet you anything its only you who see's yourself as ugly anyway. I understand its difficult moving so much and shame on your mother for uprooting you so often, yes I believe your correct in saying your mother is being selfish but thinking it and being able to do anything about it is two different things, the only advice I can really give you is to do as your mother wishes you will not be under her roof for ever so work very hard at school and achieve as best as you can so you can build a future for yourself later, next step, we all come into this world the same, and that is as a helpless baby, we leave the world the same when our time is up (meaning all humans are equal,no special treatment in the coming and going), the only difference in that time is how we choose our journey's and the only one that is ever going to really do anything for you is yourself, make good choices work very hard and remember school won't last forever. God bless you and remember although you feel alone at times, no one is ever really alone

Answer 13

ok, do you have any I mean any friends that would be willing to take you in for a year? if so do it. Also, if you don't then try re-inventing yourself before you go to your new school, get a makeover, new hairdo, tan, and work out. Plus, maybe an extra year would be good because you can get better grades. If you don't want an extra year than sign up for duel enrollment at your local college to take care of your graduation requirements. That's an extra bonus because it looks like you can hand college courses even though they are just like high school courses (the colleges totally go for that!) Last, parents always talk about moving but usually it is too much of a hassle, so you might not even have to worry about it...

Answer 14

i think you should talk to her face 2 face and try to make her understand you...but if ever that she really don't want try not 2 force her,coz it may cause a conflict*take care*^__^