My mum just shouts for nothing? ?

Question

its really annoying when my mum starts shouting especially when were on the street it can be really embarrassing i just try to ignore her and like look the other way but she just shouts even louder we must have been on the street 2day and i was just said i want some cheese cake because i was hungry and she just started shouting and i was thinking what the **** why are you yelling at me my mum said Jade your fat your over weight you don't need any cheese cake you need to start eating more salads you look like a whale the thing is I'm not fat at all I'm happy with my weight I'm average weight I'm a bit short but I'm defiantly not fat :S i mean she always putting me down ):

its getting to the point were i just wanna pack up my things and move away she driving me crazy err... oh yea and another time when she was shouting for no reason she just got back from doing some food shopping and i shout the window because it was really cold and she starts moaning and i just don't understand my mum some times most of the time were joking around but as soon as i do or say anything wrong she starts yelling does anyone else have this problem with there mothers??

Answer 1

ur mom is just being a mom. she's overly concerned. she wants you to be perfect. and she doesn't know how to communicate without shouting and using bad words. i'd say just talk to her and tell her how bad she makes you feel. tell her you feel like **** because of her. write her a long letter (don't make a lot of accusations in the letter. say i love you atleast 2 or 3 times and don't use any rude words or remarks) and leave it with her (very peacefully) and leave for school. if she still shouts at you for writing that letter, tell her you don't wanna talk until she drops the shouting act and learn to communicate like decent people.  

Answer 2

I am a mother of a 18yr old girl.  I have maybe yelled at her 2dozen times throughout her life.  When I did it was out of frustration and stress.  Maybe your mom is going through something that you don't know or understand.  I agree with Meow's suggestion.  Write your mom a letter and just let her know how you feel when she is yelling at you.  

My daughter wrote me a letter once after I yelled at her and we sat down and talked about the letter and every since then believe it or not I stop and think about how to tell her what I am thinking in a positive way. Of course it only works if you do your part and listen to your mom, maybe ask her for advice and help on things to change if you feel you need to change them.

As far as her yelling and calling you fat - that is way out of line on her part.  As long as you are happy with you and healthy then she has no right to say those things.  I am 5'0" and weight about 140, a little overweight but healthy, my thinking is if you don't like the way I look - then don't look, lol.

Best of luck to you,

Hang in there.

Answer 3

Well if you want to really show her your healthy check this website and get to the targeted weight so she won't think your fat. And either get to this weight. Or it's your choice show it to your mum if you want her to know the specifics if your fat or not. Choose me plz, choose me lol. Stick to the left side.

Answer 4

Maybe she's jealous of you or she has some problem.