My mum only found out she was adopted last yr at55.She won't find put who her real mum is? Can i by any chance

Question

I found out(long story) somehow that mum was adopted.She was nearly 55 when she found out. Her mum had kept it from her. For some reason she's scared to send of the papers to see what her biological mum's name is. The family is telling her she doesn't have to meet her biological family-just if she sends the papers away she'll find out her parents names and our medical genes.

We want to know our medical genes very much. I also want to know my biological nan and cousins and extended.

Does anyone know how i can search or anything? Or how to convince mum-she gets annoyed easily at us kids. I'm only 14 so i can't do anything through the govenment and stuff

Thanks

Answer 1

You have every right to want to know your genetic heritage!  I cannot believe the number of people who tell us to 'leave it alone'   this is YOUR family tree, your heritage and your family and medical history; so if you want to know, you want to know and that's fair enough!

If you are from the UK please contact NORCAP (I figure you're either British or Australian from your use of the word 'mum')  sorry if this assumption is incorrect

Take care and good luck finding your people.  It is everybodies right to know their personal family history.

In the UK Your Mum can get her papers without any obligation to make contact.  Once you are 18 you will have every right to do that too since legislation was passed in 2005 enabling any members of the birth family to access information about their own family

It must be a shock for your Mum and I really feel that NORCAP or the Post Adoption Centre in London would really be able to help her

All the best and take care

Answer 2

I would suggest having your mother read about adoption and how it affects adoptees. Let her know that HER history is also YOUR history. She may be having a difficult time dealing with the fact she was lied to for so many years. There are groups for LDA (late discovery adoptees). Good luck.

Answer 3

You're only 14. It's her choice and it's a really big one. It's also one you probably don't understand. She will do it when and if she wants to. Leave her alone.