My mum saw me......(nothing dirty not to worry)?

Question

my mum walked in my room and saw me on the LGBT part of Yahoo!

she didn't say anything she just smirked and looked away i quickly minimized and asked what she was doing (she was getting a top) anyway lately its as if shes been waiting for me to say something to her like about my sexuality I'm guessing but i wanna keep it to myself till i go to college (1 years time) what should i do? i mean shes acting proper suspiciously and its kinda scaring me. do you think shes waiting for me to come out? i always go on about hating guys because there only after one thing and the fact i never want to get married (to a male) so is it possible she's got g*y daughter sixth sense?

Answer 1

Sounds like she probably knows and is okay with it.

Ultimately, its up to you if you want to tell her or not. Though the obvious question I think you should be asking yourself is 'why do I want to wait a year to tell my mother?'.

Sounds safe, its your call

Answer 2

she knows, trust me. just tell her.

Answer 3

Hey;;

I was in a similiar position not long ago where i had serious suspicions that she knew about myself being a L*****n.

I didn't have to come out to her 'cause in the end she dropped a HUGE hint that she knew [too Rude to post xD].

Try talking to her asking how she views g*y / lesbians / bisexuals etc ?

Answer 4

parents seem to be much more observant than most of us give them credit for. it was only 5 or 6 months ago when my parents pulled me over and basically said "look, we know you're g*y, we've known for a couple of years now, and we're ok with that". i was pretty much just.. o.O, considering i'd been fairly diligent to keep up an illusion, always had girl"friends" over to my house, always saw guy friends away from it xD

it's possible she knows.. or it might just be your mind playing tricks on you, causing you to imagine things.. either way, can it really hurt? just relax and see what happens.

Answer 5

I started dressing when I was in my teens. I spent the next 25 years living in abject terror of losing my family over it. Deeply closeted. But then when I was in my 30's my partner who knew about my dressing started to blackmail me about it, threatened to tell my family if I didn't do things her way. So, one day I got so sick of someone using my own fear to control me I went to my mom and came out. And that's when I found out that my mom had always known. And I was mad, mad at all that fear and terror for years. And when I asked why she never talked to me she said, " it was your life, I figured that if you needed to talk you would have. "  So, I think your mom probably suspects or knows. She is respecting you privacy, and treating you like an adult. I'll bet your mom will surprise you, as a parent myself I can tell you this; A parent can hate the people, clothes, and lifestyles of their children. But the one thing that never changes is that you are their child and they will always love you. No matter who you are or become. Carol

Answer 6

Its none of her business just yet, and she knows its not. If she does have her suspicions so what? Nothing to do with her, its your life, you dont have to tell her anything, wait until you reach the point in your life of completely not caring about it anymore, because you obviously see it as some problem right now.

Answer 7

first you keed to be sure that she could read the screen from were she was and then is she the kind of mum that cant work the dvd player or computer so she may not know wat u were doing and u may just be paranoied

Answer 8

Omg! Tell me about it..

Mum walks in on me all the time but thankfully she doesn't know how to read too much English so I'm just like, meh! She's always insinuating along with my step dad that I'm g*y whenever I make comments about hating males. lol. But I'm not gunna say anything about me being bi-sexual anytime soon. I just don't feel ready and they don't need to know at thipointtn in time when theres too much happening this year for me.

Your mum probably knows but is doing the right thing by keeping quite until you come to her first. If this is so, then at least you know shes okay with the idea. If it's not eating up inside, then maybe dont say anything until your ready to. Leave it for a year if you can.

Then again, she could be completely oblivious about it. She could think that your just going through a "bi-curious" stage and just researching?

I do agree parents can have a "g*y daughter sixth sense" as you would call it.lol. I can't believe my mum has been accusing me of liking girls way before I even knew I did   O.o

Much Love

xoxo

Answer 9

I'm assuming for the moment that your question, although prompted by your mum's action (snooping?), is something about which you've been thinking for a long time.

There's an old cliche about mothers always knowing if their kid is q***r. I think there's some truth to it. Certainly my mother wasn't surprised; many of my g*y friends report the same thing.

I'm curious about the "smirk," on your mum's face when she say the LGBT page. How do you think she'd react to the news? Has she indicated anything to lead you to think it might be dangerous?

I understand your wanting to wait until you start at uni; it's much easier to establish a public identity in a new place where almost nobody knows you. That said, your being g*y is the "elephant in the room." You both know it's there, but neither of you will acknowledge it.

I know this isn't exactly a direct answer to your question. The fact is that there's no right way or wrong way to come out. There's only YOUR way. With all that in mind, I'm getting the feeling that you're both ready for the discussion. I hope this is helpful.

Answer 10

Many parents, if they are already open-minded about it, will often pick up the signs that their kid is homosexual.

I think your mother already knows, but she just respects you by waiting for you to come out on your own. Sounds like a cool mother to me, and I don't think you should be ashamed of comming out to her now before college.