My mum wont let go plz help me ?

Question

im 19yrs old

and my mum said to me i should have my boyfriend ova more often . so i asked him to come ova to watch a movie in my room . mum said no he cant come ova

and if he does we have to stay in the lounge room . so of cors i blew up wen she told me this then she rang my aunty and went to tell her what she thinks . only thing was she wasnt home and my cuz answered she is 23 . mum asked her if she was aloud at my age and she said yes. but that still wasnt enough for my mum .

i really dnt get it . she is always telling me i need to grow up but at the same time she wont let me . she wont let go

any ideas on what to do ??

Answer 1

She is a parent and the idea of her "little-girl" having s*x or anything resembling thereof is probably weird for her... I mean, this is the person who used to change your diapers after all.

Answer 2

unfortunatley its your parents house and you have to respect there rules, so if that means no boys in your bedroom then you'll have to live with it, if you want freedom the only thing you can do is move out, or hang out at his house. theres not a whole lot you can do about it.

Answer 3

im 17 and me and my boyfriend have been together 11 months, in either mine or his we can go to our rooms and we often stay over at each others house in the same room, same bed. We stay in my house on weekends and during the week sometimes alone when my family go away to our caravan. You should talk to your mum and let her know that you are not a child any more. You could even come to some sort of agreement such as you stay down stairs for a bit when he first comes over, so that your mum can see him, then you go to your room. It is her house so she would probably try and use that excuse with you but tell her she needs to learn to trust you. Good Luck i hope it works out for you :)

Answer 4

just talk to her about it  

Answer 5

While under her roof, you need to respect her rules...

You could always ask when's a good time to invite him over for supper, or go "couple" bowling, or offer to make supper for all of you...

Or you can move out.

Answer 6

You are 19, an adult do whatever the h**l you want to! I think it might be best to get an apartment with a friend and start to grow up out of the house. It's hard for parents to see their kids grow up so they'll start to act weird and not be what you want so just take the next step and find someone to room with! It will be a great experience and you'll finally be able to BE YOURSELF! :) Take care!

Answer 7

Only one thing to do: move out.  That's the only way you will be able to experience real independence.  As long as you live at your mom's, you must play by her rules no matter how unfair they seem to you.