My mums going on holiday without me

Question

My mums going abroad without me and i cant help but be upset. Shes going to Spain with her boyfriend that shes been with for 6 years. When she first told me i couldnt stop crying its ridiulous....im 14 why am i feeling like this. I mean i dont even know what im upset about, whether its because she going without me or shes going with Tony (bf) or i'll miss her, or its near the start of a new year at school and i might need her....i dont know! I shouldnt be feeling like this, i dont get it.

Why am i so upset? i'm staying with my auntie whos lovely and mums going for a week.

Anyone know whats going on or any help?

im sorry i keep saying it but im 14!!!!! i dont know why im feeling this way i cant help but be upset.

Answer 1

How long is she going for? I went overseas to work when my daughter was 22 and it was SO hard for me, and for her.  I was gone for 8 months and I cried every single day because I missed her so much.

Part of me wishes I hadnt gone, but part of me was saying she has her own life, I only see her maybe once a week and as a person and a human being myself I DO deserve to do some things for myself now that my children are grown.

Your mom isnt deserting you, you are staying with an aunt, you are safe and cared for.  Try to understand your mother is your mother but she is also a woman and a human being.  She needs to have more in her life than just you.

Someday you will be all grown up and will move out and you wont want your mother living with you, or demanding you spend all your time with her.  She has to have others in her life, and love and the companionship of adults.

I know its hard, and its wonderful that you love your mother this much. What a sweetie pie you are ! Your mother obviously believe you are going to be ok and you are strong enough to be apart for awhile.

Your mothers love and caring has given you the tools to do this. You can keep in touch via the internet, phone calls, etc.  I think its the distance that is scaring you as well, but if you really needed her she could get a flight and be back in about 14 hours.

14 is a hard and critical time and I dont know if I would leave my daughter at that age.  However I am sure your mother has her reasons, maybe this is a once in a lifetime opportunity? Have you told her you need her and you arent that grownup yet?

Answer 2

Well having a parent away from me for a would week would definitely make me sad......

Answer 3

Dont worry she'll be back and you'll be fine.  You are feeling as if youre being turfed out the family nest.  You might have a good time with your Auntie and Im sure she'll be a surrogate mum to help you with things.  Oddly its probably not something youve come across before but your mum might want a break from it all and with her boyfriend.  Its not that she doesnt want to be with you, but just needs time to relax.  On the upside if you ask she may buy you a wicker donkey!

Answer 4

You may feel that your mom is putting her boyfriend ahead of you.  You need to talk to her and let her know that you are really upset about this, and you are not sure why.  Tell her everything that you stated here, or let her read this.  I feel that she did choose a bad time.  She had three months in the summer, or even after you had gotten settled in school would have been better, but of course there may have been extenuating circumstances about the time.  Anyway, let her know how you feel.    

Answer 5

Don't worry there will always be another holiday coming along, when your mum gets back tell her how it made you feel..and ask her if maybe next time to include you odds are she's going to see how it made you feel and apoligize with a make up holiday with just you and her!!!!

Answer 6

YOU feel left out,she may never went with out you that's why,it's normal.you big girl now you understand mom need time for herself ones a while.you love your mom so much,so you not ready to share with any body you know by brain and understanding that,it's wrong but your heart is not,still mom little baby there.don't worry next time you be o k.

Answer 7

Don't feel bad about being upset honey, you're probably just going to miss her alot!  Especially if you're starting a new school year soon, you probably feel as if she should be there with you when that's happening.  It's totally okay that you're upset about that! Just let her know how you're feeling and that you're going to miss her, that'll probably mean alot to her.  And when she gets back, you can tell her all about how things were when she was gone. =]

Answer 8

you sound like a brat..she's only going to be gone for a week!!! parents do need something called a brea from time to time. you should be happy that she has the chance to go and relax, be stress free