My mums just thrown me out, im sixteen and live in the uk.. any suggestions on what to do. im a student..

Question

im not going back there. we seriously cannot live together and shes just being kinda ridiculous i was only ten minutes late coming in.

Answer 1

You will have to go back home for now or stay with friends/family until monday. On monday go to the council and speak to them. If you mum has thrown you out and made you homeless they have a duty of care towards you. try work it out with your mum! good luck

Answer 2

Tell your friends and family, they will help

If your mums that bad i think shes having her own problems in life.

Answer 3

Girl, I'm sure you didn't get thrown out of your home for being 10 minutes late. My guess is you were rebellious and disrespect her authority. Her job is to make you the best person she can make you. Your job is to be the best person you can be. You broke a rule. How many times have you broke this rule or other rules? Do you argue with her over the rules and your punishments? Did you disrespect her by calling her names? Did you raise your voice to her?

A parent doesn't throw a chilld out on the streets unless she is at her wits end. You have no idea how difficult your life is going to be on your own. Chances are you are going to fall into the wrong crowd, develop a drug or alcohol additiction, and be in trouble with the law. Your body will become your currency. Your life has taken a turn for the worst. I have known very few kids who were able to put their lives together after being on their own at such a young age without going through much h**l, and some of them never recover.

You need to go home, appologize for anything you said or did wrong.  You need to discuss why she became so frustrated to throw you on the streets. You should listen to her and not argue back. The more you talk, the more you will understand where your mom is coming from and she you. I know you want to become an antomomous adult, but it will take a few more years. God bless.

Answer 4

as previous answer says you will have to hold on until monday, stay with a friend  / family. then go tou your council housing office. as long as your mum will sign something saying she will no longer allow you tstay in her house they will have to rehouse you. although be warned you will probably have to stay in a B&B ith dirty shared bathroom faciliites for months whilst you're on the waiting list for a flat on a nasty council estate somewhere!

can you not make it up with your mum?

Answer 5

just tell them

Answer 6

a place called SHAID,they also have a website check it out ,or you both may cool down soonx

Answer 7

Oh dear.

You are so young.

This happened to me when i was 17

Where do you live? You need to contact the local Y.M.C.A

or go t the police station for a list of hostels etc they will contact your mom and maybe this will be enough to see she is in the wrong, if not the police will help you.

Good luck

you are on your own now life will be very difficult but you should make new friends at the hostels

please email me i'm worried about you

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are you sure your friends mom or your other family can't help out?

I sgree with nearly all what STORM has written

but it is never too late to study

mature student 34, social work

Answer 8

She threw you out for a reason. Work back on fixing the cause and get back into your moms...You will end up messed up for the rest of your life. Appologize...parents don't throw kids out on the street just because. Take Care

Answer 9

Doesn't matter if it was 10 minutes or 10 hrs.YOU were in the wrong hon, not your mum.

Either go live with a relative,or a homeless shelter.No matter WHERE you live, you are going to find out there are rules, and if you won't obey your mother's rules, then you probably won't obey societies rules either.You know where people end up who will not obey the rules?They end up in prison hon,or ina lot of trouble.

EVERY choice you make will eventually have consequences.You need to go home, apologize to your mother,and start obeying her.

Answer 10

you could get in touch with CRISIS

http://www.crisis.org.uk/page.builder/ab...

they give a helpline out and offer directions for you to look into.

alternatively you could say sorry to your mum for being late, if you flout the rules that you are responsible for upholding then there has to be a punishment. i know it might not be the answer you are looking for but this is how it is.

you live at home, not your home but your mum's who will have rules and boundaries that she expects you to follow. as a maturing person you will be faced with rules and boundaries for the rest of your life it is something you need to get used to, by your mum re enforcing her rules she is teaching you to respect others rules and boundaries and maturely carry out what she expects of you while living at home. has this been one of many 10 minutes late or are there many conflicts on rules of the house within your situation. i speak from experience i have a 15 year old son who has to comply by the boundaries i set down, and he gets shouted at and punished if he doesn't follow them, purely because as his mum i have to instill in him that when he becomes of working age there will be social rules to follow, who else is going to learn our children how to interact within a society that is run by social norms and expectations of displaying certain behaviours. you may feel your mum is a right old so an so who doesn't understand what its like to be a teenager, but we have all been there and all had to learn from our parents how to live in the real world.

if you remain homeless you will possibly have to leave education to support yourself, that sounds like a waste of learning time and ending up in a job that you may hate for the rest of your life. you could have a goal that after you have finished your education you can afford to buy/rent your own pad with a job you enjoy and then you can have your very own set of rules on how you want to live. think about it is it worth throwing everything away for getting into a row over being ten minutes late, you are in the wrong here and it should be you that trys to put it right, your mum may be annoyed and at first not accept your appology but she will see you are being mature enough to try an put things right. have ownership of your own actions, and if you are wrong state it is you who is wrong.  in future come home on time abide by her wishes, if they are very unrealistic try negoating different terms if they are not far off what she wishes to happen she may go along with it. we all fall out with our parents and as a parent i say things in anger then regret it, it take two to argue and two to put it right, between the ages of 15-18 life can be confusing and difficult you want to make your own decisions and look after yourself, but your parents also are having to adjust by slowly letting go this may be a little at a time then they may reel you in a bit further than last time because it is scary letting go alltogether.

try looking at your parents from an outside perspective are they learning to adjust at the same pace as you are maturing, is one holding tight while the other one wants to fly. life is difficult being homeless i've done it, it's not all roses and this decision may affect everything about your life for the rest of your days. think openly before you truly decide what you want from your life.

good luck

Answer 11

Go back home. both of you will have 2 learn 2 make sacrifices i.e u listen 2 your mum and your mum doesn't go over the top. make compromises. If your mums really that hard 2 live with then go 2 the person who your most close 2 and will let u stay with them and make sure that they can also support you maybe later when your mums cooled off you can go back home. She may get on your nerves but at the end of the day mate shes still your mum

Answer 12

get on jeremy kyle n sort ur f`ed up life out n change waht caused ur mum to chuch u out  

Answer 13

is there a family relative you can go with for a while? you dont want to go living in a hostal or anything there not nice, or you could go get a job in hotel or something where they will have live in accomadation,  

Answer 14

Maybe it was done in temper....she will soon calm down....talk to her,you dont want to be in the big wide world just yet,it is very difficult.. i wish you well and goodluck....

Answer 15

If I were you, I would go to one of your good friend's house. Stay there for the weekend, then on Monday morning, try going back to your mum and apologise, try to work things out. If you don't want to do this, try the RSPCC. You are underage to be on your ow. It is child abuse. Good luck. I wish you all the best. xx

Answer 16

You are right in saying this situation is ridiculous.

You mum has a deep problem and need help.

You are to young to be own your own making decisions that you should not have to make.

Do you have any friends or relatives that you can go to and talk with them about what is going on at your home?  If so go to them and stay with them until you either talk to the authorities, or child abuse center.

You mother can not just kick you out of the house.  You are still a child.  She can be in big trouble if you report her.

So sorry about your situation hope you and your mum can get things worked out.

Blessings