My mums threatening to send my to a boarding school unless i start behaving?

Question

Im 14, Ive threw wild parties, got drunk and i get in alot of bother at school! I know i have to behave but i always seem to get into trouble wherever i go, its my own fault but how do you guys stop yourselves getting annoyed with others, && stop yourselves talking back, and stop yourself from doing stupid things etc...

Advice plz && plz dont give me the 'just behave' coz ive had enough of that

Thanxxx

Answer 1

Anything worth doing is gonna be hard. It's easy to misbehave. So you need to try something that's not easy to do. Challenge yourself. Next time you wanna talk back, take a few seconds and think about what comes out of your mouth. When you wanna slack off in school, make an effort! Get help if you don't understand something, and behave in class! There's nothing wrong with getting annoyed with people, but try to at least pretend to not be, because otherwise, it's off to boarding school for you!

When you wanna do bad things, think about how much you really don't wanna be sent away, and use that as your motivation.

Answer 2

Teach yourself to think before you speak.

When you are on your own and planning to throw a party stop yourself and think, "who am I affecting with my actions?"

write every misbehaving thing you do down on a sheet of paper then write a solution to the problem.

Talk to your parents about it and what they think you should do to improve your behaviour.

Say no to Peer Pressure :)

Answer 3

well technically you should try flipping the pillow at night to sleep on the other side...works every time

Answer 4

First of all you have to realize how much your Mum loves you. She wouldn't be doing this if she didn't. Second you have to see how lucky you are and APPRECIATE IT.   Third you have to care about yourself but you have to care about what this is doing to your Mum.  Life is full of choices and you have to make the right choices.  You and only you will can make something out of your like.  You don't have to be wild to enjoy and appreciate the world around you.  Love life and your self and respect it also.  Good luck.

Answer 5

Well why are you acting this way? Are you trying to get attention, or do you just not like being told what to do? Sometimes there are reasons for bad behavior, and you should look at the underlying problem.

It took me 16 years to not want to argue and fight, one day after a fight I realized the only person I hurt and made look stupid was myself.

Your mother does love and care about you and she wants you to grow up. She doesn't want to see you get into legal trouble, because some trouble you can't just talk yourself out of.

Would boarding school be that bad? Maybe getting away from the enviroment you are in now will help. Plus you would get an awesome education and a unique life experience that most do not get to experience.  

Answer 6

I suggest you start listening to your mom if you dont wanna go.

Anyways when they yell at you, ignore them.

When you ignore them you end up keeping yourself quiet.

And avoid stupid things.

Come on its common sense.

Answer 7

relax when your in that situation....and when it comes to talking back..well thats a teen thing...you don't have to change completly like BAM but i think if you show your mom that you are trying...then you'll b good 2 go....hope dis helps

Answer 8

I dont think there is any other answer besides 'Just Behave' that we can give you...

It's good that you want to improve but your gonna need help.

Try talking to a counsler, friend, or parent about this.

Tell your mom you really want to try, and that you dont want to go to a boarding school then really start trying.

Once, I read about a great idea. Try to get a picture of someone who looks up to you (a baby sibling, cousin, anyone!) and carry it around with you, or simply in your head. And everytime you feel the urge to do something dumb, ask yourself, would you do this if they were watching?

Keep reminding yourself in your head that you want to be a better person. Whenever you start to talk back, or get angry with someone, take a deep breath and apoligize if you've already started doing it.

Keep practicing you'll be fine!

Answer 9

well you obviously dont want to go to boarding school so maybe you should keep that in your mind everytime you are going to do something that makes your mom angry?

your mom clearly wants the best for you and wants you to be responsible for your actions.

then again your 14 and you clearly are allowed some fun. maybe you should try talking to your mom and let her know that your not out to pee her off all the time and that you will make an effort to improve.

if i find myself getting annoyed i just take a mental step back out of the situation and think about the consequences that will follow my actions.

good luck.

Answer 10

go to boarding school

havent you read or watched Gossip Girl? boarding school would be the best! no parents! as long as the school is coed, otherwise it would suck!

Answer 11

Well, you could stop throwing parties, stop drinking the booze and pay attention in school.

When your getting annoyed or want to talk back to someone, just accept what they are saying and walk away. There is no use in fighting about it if you are going to get into more trouble then you are in already.

Good Luck.

Answer 12

i have the same problems as you

what i do now (lol i had to learn to control myself) i just stay to myself and wen someone makes a rude comment ignore it and wen u wana talk bak jus roll your eyes insted it helps me alot

and wen you go to parties don't drink insted just get like a soda and don't leave it alone if you like set it down and leave it there get a new soda

well sooner or later you'll get use to it altho here adn there you'll lose your touch but u'll still be able to maintain it for the most part

Answer 13

Have you ever heard of "being sneaky"? I was sneaky when I was a teen, and I did pretty much everything, but my parents thought I was a golden boy. This means biting your tongue and not arguing or talking back. Being able to do this is an essential skill in the workplace, so developing it now will help you later. Things like throwing wild parties - well, that is just dumb. There is no way to get away with that, so don't even try. Go to other people's wild parties, but don't throw them. Like I said, be sneaky.

If worse comes to worse and you get sent to a boarding school, that is okay. At the boarding school, they might be strict, but on the other hand you aren't their kid so they really won't care about you, so you can become a chainsmoker, drug addict, and alcoholic while you are there.

Answer 14

maybe whenever you start feeling annoyed or like misbehaving try and think of the consequences b4 acting on impulse

it might help

Answer 15

Its called "Self Control" And you don't have any. I'm 16 and i have been grounded once in my whole life. I mean, you know what is right and wrong. Your not stupid. Maybe your hanging out with the wrong crowd.

Answer 16

i think to myself "how will this end?"  lol usually i do it anyways. oh and dont throw parties that **** always gets efed up in the end no matter what, dont get to hammered lol, just have fun. and if u do go to private school lol. party it up there. tell your mom that your sorry give her a hug and tell her that u love her and youll try to stop talking back. i usually bite my tongue and vent later.

Answer 17

First off you should stop hanging out with you're old friends. As hard as it may be, you should try to cut ties to you're "Wild" Friends because they are bad influences to you. Try to clean up your image, (dress less S****y, or take out your facial piercings if you have any). That will make things easier at home.

Answer 18

awww poor little 14 year old doesn't want to be told to just behave. I think you need to start acting like a young lady and behaving. Just stop acting like a butthead and you won't have to go to boarding school.

Answer 19

You know my boyfriend went to boarding school for similar reasons when he was 16 (hes now 21) and he said it really helped him. He told me that boarding school wasnt that terrible at all and that almost all of his close friendships came from that school! He also told me that it was a great experience and helped him to get his life together. Maybe boarding school would be a good experience for you? If you really feel like you cant stop partying or anything like that its probably the best choice...Its also probably going to be hard to stop if you stay home and are around the same people and things that make you want to party/get in trouble at school....Hope this helps!

Answer 20

Sounds like your friends are a bad influence. Dump them all and join the girl scouts