My nan likes to have favourites?

Question

right, i have a second cousin or something like that who is the same age...

we were really good friends till about 11 when we went to secondary school and just kinda drifted apart...

my nan has always had favourites, and she keeps bringing Sophie up and saying how wonderful she is! i saw Sophie about a year ago with all her friends, i smiled but she ignored me. then later on by herself, she said "hello! its your cousin sophie if you dont recognise me!" in a really patronising voice. since then she just ignores me, and glares at me when i pass her in the street smiling.

i tried to tell my nan that but she insists that Sophie is an angel and so bloody wonderful!

i cut my hair short and dyed it black, my nan complianed.

sophie does it and she says "she looks so mature!"

my parents cant afford great schooling so she isnt ever interested.

sophie goes to a better school and all she does is say how clever she is for getting in! (hello? you pay!)

i get bullied and fail my GCSE's (well, got an A, 2 B's and a few C's) and she doesnt say anything.

Sophie gets 5 A's and shes like "wow, how intelligant!!!"

i dont get a job because i was too young fpr practically everything and my nan encourages me to quit my hairdressing job because of c**p pay and she drops hints all the time that i should work. IM IN FULL TIME EDUCATION!!!

sophie (who is a year older) gets a job in a pub and suddenly she is so grown up! do amazing!

lastly, sophie has just passed he theory driving test with "flying colours! shes so intelligant" and now shes taking her next test.

its only been legal for me to practice for a week! im younger! plus im not that fussed because i would rather walk to help reduce global warming.

why does my nan favour her???

Answer 1

Just have a heart to heart talk with your "Nan."

Remind her that neglected children often burn the elderly relations feet with cigarettes when they go to the retirement home.

That should give her religion.  

Answer 2

Dont worry you will have your time in the spot light. I would ask your "Nan" why she is always doting on your cousin but not you too? And its Intelligent with an e not a. Dont mean to sound mean just helping.

Answer 3

When you pursue something too hard it usually fails.....like picking up a boy/girl on a Friday night...the harder you try the further away it seems to get. You are your own person, your have your own attributes and they already blossom...but it may be because you "appear" outwardly stronger/more attractive/tougher than your cousin that you give the impression your are already very independent or grown up and don't need the encouragement of others - the truth is its nice to get a few compliments now and again right? Maybe try turning the situation on its head with your nan and throwing in a few compliments about your cousin to her and enquiring about "how she is". Some genuine concern for others may win a few points in your nans good books. BTW check me on your contact coz I lost u!

Answer 4

I had a Nan like that, so i ignored her. The best way, i think. You are here for your life, not hers, to blackmailed emotionally 'cos she is family.