My neighbor mom is mad at me because i eat when im at her house

Question

Me and my neighbor have been friends since birth. Recently her mom has gotten mad at me because while im over her house i eat. Its not like pig out and am the only person eating. Just like if my friend is having a snack i will eat to. Also i am a pretty small kid and don't eat that much.But my neighbors mom is getting pissed at me because i 'eat and run." I guess what I'm asking is this weird and is she being unreasonable or should i just like bring my own food when i go to my friends house.

Answer 1

Try and eat before going over there.  They may or may not be struggling financially.

Also - does her son ever eat over at your house?  Or is it just you eating at your friends house all the time?

Answer 2

It's odd she's suddenly got an issue with you eating there, but the simple solution, and the polite thing to do no matter what, would be to wait until you are offered food. You may not mean to 'eat and run' but it may seem to the mother that's what you're doing, so try to make a conscious effort to stick around after a snack, and definitely thank her and your friend for the food you're offered. You could also try talking to the mother about it and let her know you're certainly not intentionally being rude or coming over to their house just to eat. Maybe they're having a tight time with money at the moment and she is worried about what's spare, or she's stressed in general, or has a misconception that you're being rude or intentionally mooching and wants to make sure you don't.

Don't worry too much about it, just try to be conscious of your actions, and reassure the mother that you're not just there to eat and yes, you are appreciative!

We used to have neighbors who would just walk into our house, grab a snack, and didn't really care who was there or anything. If we didn't know them better we would have been upset, but it was actually kind of funny :P

Answer 3

Maybe the Mom can't afford to feed you and her family.

To be safe, eat before you go over, then there won't be any hard feelings.

Answer 4

Since she seems to have changed recently, is your friend's family going through some tough financial problems.  Maybe they have a tight budget for food and even 1 extra snack is hard for them.  If this really bothers you, yes, bring your own snacks, or bring 2 extra snacks, one for you and one for your friend, then her mother can not get angry.

Answer 5

Either money is tight for them or she resents that you don't stick around and chat with her.

Answer 6

take your own food. I don't agree with one of the answers about bringing enough for everyone there. You should bring your own snacks and then take them out to eat when your friend eats his food. and simply tell the mom that she doesn't need to worry about feeding you cause you brought your own food. just take a back pack with you..

good luck

Answer 7

Take your own food, and think about occasionally bringing enough for everyone over there.

Answer 8

if ur just splitting a bag a chips with ur friend and her mom gets mad then f*** her....even if the family is broke a bag of chip wont make them any richer..her mom is just being a b**** to you and probably doesnt like you..which is fine really....u go to her house to see ur friend, not her

Answer 9

I hope you aren't going over there and helping yourself without being invited to have something to eat.   That would be rude.

It would be nice once in a while for you to bring enough snacks for everyone.  A watermelon all cut up, a half gallon of ice cream, a bag of chips and a bottle of soda, something like that.

And if you want to be really nice and get on the Mom's good side, it might be nice to help wash the dishes, sweep the floor and pick up the mess that I'm sure happen when you are there visitin.  And of course say THANK YOU.

Answer 10

take your own food! =]