My neighbour keeps banging on the wall telling my kids to keep the music down who does he think he is?

Question

its saturday night and boys will be boys after a few beers it is not like it is a school night , what can i do about his bad attitude

Answer 1

Clearly, you live in an apartment, and you have to share space with others.  So, the answer to your question, "Who does he think he is?" is that he thinks he is a person who has rights too.  The fact that it is Saturday night, and not a school night is irrelevant.  Your boys are "invading his space" when they inflict loud noise into his quiet zone.  You shouldn't have to live in a tomb, but he shouldn't have to live in the middle of a rock band concert either.  Your statement "Boys will be boys after a few beers" sounds thoughtless and insensitive.  You asked about changing your neighbor's attitude, and you can't.  Only he can.  But you can eliminate his urge to pound on your wall and possibly complain to the building management by keeping things quieter, regardless of what day it is or how many beers have been consumed.

Answer 2

ask him to stop doing it?

Answer 3

tell him he has the problem so if he doesnt like it 2 have the walls soundproofed

Answer 4

He's your neighbor and quiet time is usually after 10pm, so if it's after 10pm take that into consideration.

Answer 5

He doesn't THINK he's anyone. He KNOWS he's a neighbour who's being kept awake by pumping music. Tell you what, how about we all come around to your house, live next door and put our music on really loud while you're trying to get to sleep or have a quiet evening. He might have work at like 5 o'clock in the morning and he needs his sleep.

Have a little respect for the man.

Answer 6

he thinks he's someone who needs sleep? the nerve of him - you sound so nice!

Answer 7

If you're in the UK then its a bit late but then I don't know how loud your kids are.  Maybe you ought to have a chat with him.

Answer 8

Are your kids old enough to drink beer? You have no respect for your neighbor. After a certain time you have to turn it down. That is the law. Who died and left you in charge?

Answer 9

I don't care if it's New Years Eve and fvck the "boys will be boys" BS, your kids need to go to a bar and do that and not blast music that disturbs other people. And if your "boys" are old enough to drink beer they're old enough to move out and not live with their mommy and blast crappy music.

Answer 10

This person is a person who has a right to have a quiet night. Not all of us have the weekend off. If anyone has the bad attitude, it's you. You allow your kids to drink beer and play their music loud. A responsible parent doesn't allow that!

Answer 11

Your kids drink BEER? BEER!? Not root beer, but BEER!? That's just terrible that you let them do that. Wow...you do know that's against the law, right?

Anyways, YOU are the one with the bad attitude, not him. How would you like it if your neighbors were playing their music hella loud all night, keeping you from sleeping??

Answer 12

it's more like what you can do about your bad attitude

b/c come on, if your kids are taking away his sleep or something obviously you're in the wrong.

just tell your kids to keep their music down or turn it up where other people don't mind it.

but if this is a grudge and he's complaining at an "okay" time period during the day

well then

i suggest you find new neighbours.

Answer 13

Yeah..turn up ur bryan adams 1991 album by all means..but watch he doesn't retali8 with 'nessun dorma' 2morrow when ur trying to get big zzz's

Answer 14

You have "kids" in the house that are old enough to drink?  At a certain age they need to be not living with (a) parent(s).  Your kids should have some respect for others around them.  They will probably grow up to be ******* or abusers if they are unable to show common courtesy.  Your neighbor has every right to be upset.  He should however come over during regular hours and have a discussion on how this should be resolve quickly & quitely.  You and your kids should consider others emotions, work schedules etc. and noise ordenece laws in your city.  They should grow up or get out.

Answer 15

Well if you are UK it is very late.  In most areas you are allowed something like over a year twice you can have excessive noise after midnight. You are sending out worrying messages. You say it is not like a school night? If these kids are still school age they shouldn't be having beers to start with. To be honest you seem to be in the wrong but if it was a very odd occassion this was happening surely for good relations it would have been only mannerly to tell your immediate neighbours there may have been a bit of a party taking place?  You really had better be careful as your neighbour at this time of night/morning would be within his rights to involve the police.

Answer 16

Maybe he has to go to work in the morning.  Would you like it if he played his music on a school night?

Answer 17

I think he's quite nice for not calling the police on your kids.

Answer 18

i agree with most other people who've answered this- in an apartment complex, he DOES have the rights to do that. maybe you should think of it from his perspective a little- after all, you both think of each other as annoying.

to be completely free of such neighbors, you'd have  to get a house.. then your kids can make all the noise they want. or, have them go to a party on saturdays, where everybody is making noise anyway

Answer 19

If your music is so loud the Police have to be called then you realy ought to take note and well ...stop doing it!!

Answer 20

he thinks hes living next door to a nuisance and maybe he needs to sleep. Be a good neighbour and respect other people.

Answer 21

Try being respectful and turn down the music.

Have a little respect.

Answer 22

Your KIDS are allowed to drink beer....wow. This situation speaks volumes about YOU. I feel bad for your neighbor.

Answer 23

He probably thinks he is someone who cannot sleep without the banging on the wall.

Answer 24

he has the right to do so if it is after 9pm

Answer 25

Your "kids" are not kids if they are "after a few beers" but for the sake of argument...

You are disturbing the peace...which is illegal...and you clearly have no respect for your neighbors. Your neighbor is well within his rights to call the police if you refuse to tone it down when your neighbor asks you to. If you live in an apartment, then not only does he have the right to call the police but also to inform apartment management...and that will only come down on you. Typically, after a certain number of violations, you can be evicted.

It doesn't matter what day of the week it is or what time of day it is...your "kids" may want to hear the music but what right do they...or YOU, for that matter...have to force everyone else around to have to listen to it too? That is very rude and selfish of you and your "kids"...and a "boys will be boys" attitude is a really crappy cop-out. You are the one with the attitude problem...not your neighbor.

Either soundproof your apartment/house or invest in headphones. Let your "kids" ruin their hearing and your own without torturing the neighbors.

EMT

Answer 26

Some people actually have to sleep Saturday nights to go to work Sunday mornings.  Plus, they have the right not to have partially drunk guys turning up the music next door.