My neighbours husband is being buried this morning?

Question

he died suddenly, and the family are totally devastated. i cant attend the funeral, as i have 2 small kids and they will not sit throughout the service, ..(i dont want them running around the church ) and i have noone to watch them if i go . so my qustion is...is it appropriate to buy flowers for the widow of my neighbour ?? just for her, when she comes home, as im sorry i couldnt attend. i dont know if buying flowers for the widow is appropriate. thanks x

Answer 1

Lovely gesture & very thoughtful.

Answer 2

yes, im sure she will appreciate the fact that you are thinking of them in their time of need. If not today, then maybe pop round with them in a day or two when the family have all gone and she needs some company.

Answer 3

i think it''s a very nice gesture  

Answer 4

it would be a nice idea.  send them to the funeral home or to her house.  you could send a note and tell her you are sorry you could not attend the funeral , you do not have to give her a reason, just say you are sorry ..

Answer 5

Sounds like a nice idea.  

Answer 6

Well, you mean so well, and this will be appreciated. What you could also do is offer to cook for her, or make a nice comforting dish that they can easily reheat, and look in every day just to make sure they are alright. Don't stay for more than a few minutes, just long enough to find out if they need anything.  

Answer 7

thats sounds great it may pick her up abit just sent a note to say your sorry he passed away and that you are there if she needs anything ..good luck .. or cook a meal .. ..

Answer 8

I think it's a nice idea, but don't stop there.

Be the person that invites her over for a talk on a regular basis.  One of the worst things about losing a mate is the survivor becomes socially isolkated after a while.

She'll need someone to talk to in the months ahead.

Be that person and you'll do far more for her than attending a ritual.

Answer 9

you could but making a casserole is even better...They will have to eat.

Answer 10

I dnt think so ,it is a nice idea to give flower who is unhappy  

Answer 11

Yes. I think she will appreciate the gesture and would be annoyed if kids attended and interrupted the service (no offence to your kids lol). I'd also attach a nice card to the flower arrangement.  

Answer 12

It is appropriate.

And what more, you can lend her some tea time and be there for her.  You don't have to have a conversation, just listen to her and be there for her.

Answer 13

It is entirely appropriate and I'm sure that she will be very touched. Remember, too, that while bereaved people receive a lot of attention at the time, in the weeks that follow they can often feel very lonely as they struggle to come to terms with the reality of their loss. Perhaps you could think of a few neighbourly things to do in the future so that they know they are not forgotten.