My nephew is 2 years old and my mom and i think he is way behind on what he should be doing?

Question

My nephew is 2 and only says Ma and Da. He doesn't you a fork or spoon 90% of the time. He doesnt try to talk at all.

He grasp balls but cant throw them. when you give him a pices of cake he sqishes it between his fingers. He does know where parts of his face are. We try to get him to sing the E I E I O in old McDonald which he just started to do.

My question is What developemental things should he be doing by now?

what can we do to help him?

Answer 1

Boys tend to be further behind then girls are when it comes to development. it could be possible that he has a problem with his ears and isn't hearing all the sounds that he should which would be prohibiting his speech, I would have his hearing checked out at the next doctors visit. I have a 2 year old girl and she is spitting out 3 and 4 word sentences at this point. All you guys can do is continue to talk to him and sing songs, read books anything that will aid in his speech development.  It's a very touchy subject to bring up with the parents that something could be wrong with their child but if they have a good pediatrician then it is up to the doctor to decide on what is normal for this child. Give it another couple of mths he may just be doing things in his own time.

Answer 2

Every child grows and develops at their own rate.  I am interested in knowing what degrees you and your mother hold that would make you experts on toddler growth and development.  Maybe he doesn't like being on display which is what you are trying to force him to be with your e i e i o c**p.  As for his speaking...what are you expecting?  He is too young to be able to recite the Gettysburg Address.  So he doesn't use a fork or spoon...he has hands doesn't he?  Back the h**l off there is nothing wrong with the child...I can't say the same for some others in the family though...

Answer 3

Some kids take longer to talk than others.  Some do in fact say more words than we think, but we can't understand them.  Does his mom think there's something wrong?  If she does, then she can always take him to be evaluated.  Otherwise, I don't know if there's much you can do except keep working with him as much as possible.  I would think a 2 year old should be able to throw a ball and at least half way use a spoon, though (of course some parents don't give their kids spoons until they're 22 months old, and then the kid doesn't master it until he's 30 months or something).  How close to 3 is he?

*EDIT*  You know, I wouldn't worry my head off too much, because he isn't quite 2 yet.  Some kids get off to a slow start, and then they take off all of a sudden.  I mean, my son was 23 months back in May, and since then, he's learned to say about 5 new words.

Answer 4

Throwing balls is a complex skill and can take his whole 3rd year.  Squishing cake?  It's a fun textural experience, I still do it sometimes!  Using utensils is also a complex skill, and as a boy he is probably much better at gross motor skills then fine motor skills anyway.  Check out the BabyCenter (link below) to peruse the developmental milestones that he should be hitting or nearly hitting.  He sounds close to normal right now.

Oh yeah, to help him - make him say what he wants before giving it to him, talk to him all the time, describe what you're doing ("I'm tying your shoe right now so we can go outside."  "You're running!  What a fast runner!").

Answer 5

It sounds like he is a little behind on speech and some motor development. His mom should take him to early intervention/birth to 3. they will test his development for free, and get him into the appropriate therapy--also for free.

There is an excellent series of sign language DVDs called "signing time" that you could have him watch. My son picked up sign language really quick while he was getting therapy  for his speech delay. it really helped him communicate with us without tantrums. If you contact me I can send you some flash card sheets that my  son's speech therapist copied for me to use at home.

Answer 6

yes he should be doing more  he should have pretty good motor skills by now  as far as eating  does his primary caregiver IE. mom  let him feed himself  if he doesn't get an opportunity to practice he wont get any better  if he just grunts and reaches or points and someone gives him what he wants he won't need to learn to speak   does he have older siblings that dote on him  he may just be spoiled

Answer 7

Boys take a lot longer to do things then girls do. MY son is almost two and only can say momma and DA DA. he does use a fork and can throw a ball most of the time. But i would not even try to get him to sing E I E I O. Most boys dont start to really talk to age 3. It just depends on the person. Just keep working with him. Make it fun. If the his doctor is not concerned about it then you should not be either.

Answer 8

since each child develops at his/her own pace, discuss your concerns with the pediatrician.

Answer 9

Physical Development

Most children aged zero to three will:

Double their height between birth and age three

Triple their weight between birth and age three

Develop teeth and the ability to eat solid foods

Develop 75 percent of their brain capacity

Learn to crawl and walk

Develop large motor skills such as running, jumping, and climbing up stairs

Begin to take off and put on clothes

Begin to control body functions through toilet training

Cognitive Development

Most children aged zero to three will:

Learn language and communication skills and advance from using single words to phrases to complete sentences

Develop an imagination and begin to create imaginary scenarios and friends

Understand the world primarily through their family

Begin to interact with peers through imitation [Although some children at this age do not yet play directly with each other, they often engage in parallel play.]

Think concretely, retain some information, and process information primarily through their five senses—by seeing, touching, hearing, tasting, and smelling

Identify with and begin to imitate their same-s*x parent or guardian

Begin to understand the differences between male and female (gender differences and gender roles)

Imitate the language and behavior of trusted      s

Emotional Development

Most children aged zero to three will:

Develop trust for caregivers who fulfill their needs, such as responding when the child is hungry, wet, etc.

Begin to test independence and explore limits, but still seek closeness to primary caregiver

Have relationships primarily with family members who are the most important people in the child's life at this time

Physically      strate feelings, such as kissing and hugging to show love and hitting to show anger

Master the idea of being happy, sad, or angry, but will generally choose to express emotions physically rather than verbally [The "terrible twos" occur when a child is developing a sense of self outside of and distinct from others, and expresses this individuality by saying "no" and by insisting on doing things him/herself.]

       Development

Most children aged zero to three will:

Be curious and explore their own body and others' bodies

Experience an erection or       l lubrication

Touch their genitals for pleasure

Talk openly about their bodies

Be able to say and understand, when taught, the appropriate names for body parts (head, nose, stomach,      , v***a, etc.)

What Families Need to Do to Raise    ually Healthy Children

To help children ages zero to three to develop a healthy    uality, families should:

Help children feel good about their entire body. Caregivers should name all body parts accurately and convey that the body and its functions are natural and healthy.

Touch and comfort children often to help them understand love and how it can be shared. Meeting children's needs also helps them develop trust.

Help children begin to understand the difference between public and private behaviors and that certain behaviors, such as picking one's nose or touching one's genitals, are private ones.

Teach about anatomical differences between males and females while maintaining that boys and     s are equally special.

Teach children that they can say no to unwanted touch, regardless of who is attempting to touch them, and that they have a right to be respected when they say no.

Describe bodily processes, such as pregnancy and birth, in very simple terms.

Avoid shame and guilt about body parts and functions.

Answer 10

Each baby it different, please don't push him to learn anything...just show him but if he doesn't show interest then leave it and try it at a later date.