My nephew is stealing my money, wtf..??????????????????

Question

ok so my nephew who i rarely ever see came over to my house for like a family get together.. we decided to both go into my room.. i left the room to get some food.. i just ate it in the living room while my nephew watched tv.. after the party i go into my room and see my wallet moved to my dresser missing 20 dollars.. im 100% positive there was a 20 in there cause i had just got it that day and put it in my wallet. my nephew is kinda known for doing bad things like that it runs in the fam. so i call his mom up and ask her to check it out for me.. he denies it just as i thought he would and know that whole side of the fam. is VERY upset with me for accusing him.. but im 100% sure he took it.. wtf wat should i do..?????????????

Answer 1

hmm. your first mistake was even giving him an opportunity to deny it. By having his mom check it out for u, u left plenty of room for doubt.

If u new for a fact that he took it then what was his mom suppose to check out?

I raised 5 boys, and let me tell you that u don't ask, you tell.

This is what u should have done.

YOU should have talked to him, he already knows what he did so there is no need to explain to him what he did. You tell him that u invited him into your room, you trusted him, and he stole from you. He is not welcome back in your room/house until he pays it back and apologies. that is all u have to say, if u do this via phone hang up. if u do it face to face, walk away, but whatever you do, don't let him turn it into a drama. That's it, you stated the facts and stick to the consequences.  

At that point it would have been between him and you.  had he chose to whine to his mother (bcuz of course now he has to play the victim) then u would have told his mom that it is what it is and they are not doing that kid any good by being upset with you as a matter of fact they just taught him that if he steals from someone they will side with him and get pissed at the victim. tell your family that he stole from you, and if they want to be in denial that is their problem but your sticking to you guns because that is what is best for him. also u may want to tell them that when he steals from them you don't want to hear about it, since they taught him it was ok to do it in the first place  

Answer 2

what kind of man doesn't carry his wallet on him?  i tell you what kind, a wo-man.  why don't get you get a purse goldy locks?  guess when the last time someone stole money out of my wallet?  never, because they're going to have to get it from me first.

Answer 3

Chop off his hand like they do in middle eastern countries for stealing. Haha no, kidding. Don't do that.

But if you didn't see it happen, regardless of what you want to do, or think he did, you can't accuse him of it. It's not a good idea to cause issues with the rest of the family, when you can't prove he actually did it.

Next time watch where you put your wallet. And keep a closer eye on him.