My new friend issues....HELP ME!?

Question

In that group of friends i thought i made a best friend. At first we were inseperateable but then she switched off to another 'best friend'(we r not the preppy populars' so to speak so this is another story) then she switched off again. I've tried several times to explain to her how i fell but she thinks it's like a personal attack. She doesn't want to 'stop being friends' but with her new friends she's never 100% there. When ever i try to grow closer with another friend she still wants the 'perks' of a best friend. She incosistant. It's angering but i don't know how to deal with it! What should i do?

Answer 1

Move on.  She sounds like one of those people that uses people for the things and status they can offer.  I would seperate yourself from this girl and make some new friends.

Answer 2

How rude. Dump her>

Answer 3

Tell her that she's holding you back and you want to stay friends but you don't trust her enough to keep her as a best friend.

Or stop talking to her.

Answer 4

Well, Im horrible at answering questions because I have been through a lot of c**p, but i can also understand the other peoples sides...lol.

she is probably the type of girl that needs to have a lot of friends because she may be a little insecure, and feels that having a lot of friends makes her seem like a better person. but, she still likes you and she still wants your friendship.

i went through this in high school with my best friend...i had a boyfriend, and then she went and got a bunch of random friends. but, it turned out okay. we are still friends to this day. we went through a little drama and didnt really talk much for about a year, but i love her to death, and she is actually my only good best friend now a days, and i havnet seen her in about three years...its crazy!

i would sort of distance yourself from her a bit, and give her a taste of her own medicine. she probably is just discovering herself and what types of people she likes...thats all. give it time!

Answer 5

you have to stay strong and move on to a new friend. i think she likes it when everyone wants to be with her. i had the exact problem and the girl ended up driving me far away.