I have a 6 year old daughter named Ashley, and her dad beat both of us. The last straw came when he ripped his belt off in a playground and proceeded to beat her in front of a group of horrified parents and children. I left him immediately after that.
I met a wonderful man afterwards, and we married after a year. The problem is that he completely spoils Ashley--buying her gifts all the time, letting her play with his expensive laptop, never getting angry at her even if she does something totally out of line (like pushing him out of the way if she needs to get by or kicking him in the shin if he's on the phone). If I tell him "I told Ashley she wasn't allowed to x*x today because she's grounded." he'll say "Well I said she could! You need to chill and quit acting like a tyrant!"
He even made up a menu on his comp and asks her everyday to tell him what she wants to eat--she ate pizza three days in a row. It's now to the point where when we pick her up from somewhere, she'll run and hug HIM first (or if it's just me, she'll first ask where he is)
On more than one occassion, I've woken up to find she had gotten out of her bed, gotten in ours, and fallen asleep on his chest.
One day I was angry and asked if she wanted a spanking, to which she responded, "If you spank me, I'll tell Alex, and he'll scream at you and make you cry like a baby" and smirked at me.
I told my husband he had to go, and he left....Ashley refused to even look at me and would immediately leave the room when I came in, or would move to another seat if I sat next to her. One morning, I was taking a shower and looked at the mirror to see the phrase "I HATE MOM" previously written through the steam. I even tried being extra nice to her buying her a present....I found it in the trash with it still in the wrapping paper. I asked if she wanted to go to Disneyland for a week with me, and she said "Have fun. I'll be with Aunt Brenda."
Out of fear of losing my daughter, I let Alex back, and Ashley is now happy again. But what can I do about him spoiling her? She is at a point where she now asks him to do things, and obeys only him, not the other way around!
They say you can't choose your parents, but Ashley has done a good job of that!
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