My older sister is way selfish and ungrateful?

Question

her boyfriend recently broke up with her for those reasons, but she still refuses to change! she expects things to be done for her, but delivers no thanks at all for those who do tasks for her. I feel as if we've been enabling her too much (she's 16, for god's sake!), but now I'm finding it difficult to be around her since she lost a really nice guy only because she's stuck in a juvenile state of mind.

I spend all day at school, through club meetings, 3 honors classes, and 3 hour volleyball practices 6 days a week. after a particularly stressful day at school/vb, my mom told me that i could choose where we could eat that night. i was so happy, because I love eating. lol, yeah, it's true. I felt like she had taken me to a candy shop and told me I could have whatever I want and however much I wanted of it. I made my descicion, but lo and behold, when I got home, sister, who had been again popping percasets while napping on the couch all day, argued that she didn't want to eat there. after a while of arguing, I gave up and let her get her descion, because I just wanted to go to my room and unwind. yeah, she's 16 and threw a tantrum.

yet another example, after we were lucky enough to get nice (fairly expensive) hair cuts the other day, she snapped at my mom for wanting to look at her hair.! I'm sorry, she just spent $60 on your hair, and she isn't entitled to see it.? okay, whatever.

anyways, there's some examples of her... she gives no thanks, and is a brat when she doesn't get what she wants. I really can't stand to be around her anymore! how, if possible, can we reverse this damage?

Answer 1

If you are in this situation its all your parents fault ; especially your mother ; so you will have to avoid her [your sister ] as much as possible and be very proud of you ; because you are a very mature person for your age ; and I am going to make you a prediction ;;In 5 yrs from  now  You would be the winner in life and she will be the loser ; because she is preparing herself       for some tough time ; yes life will teach her ; that things are   not  always go the way you want and she is very ill prepare to face adversity that life put on our path Ps I am 65 yrs  

Answer 2

i have two older sisters and i see some similarities in one of my sisters and yours. what i sometimes do is return her bratty behavior. for example with the eating out for dinner example, the next time she gets to choose argue with her over the exact same things she argued with you about. when she gets pissed off then simply tell her she does the exact same thing to you. she'll know your right even if she doesn't admit it. hopefully this will help over time!

Answer 3

Because your sister is self-centered, it will be like that for a while.  When she grows up, and realizes that the world does not revolve around her, and that she is driving people away from her (friends and family) she may want to change.  Just keep on being you--- be nice to her--- and pray and ask God to help her grow up.  --- Toni D.  

Answer 4

everyone in her life needs to stop enabling her crummy behavior.  it takes two (or more) to play her games.  you have no obligation to put up with it either just because your family.  if anything family has the obligation to set her straight.  your parents in particular are responsible for laying down the law with this brat.