My older son wants to retaliate against brother for bird?

Question

my toddler killed my cockatiel that my ten-year-old son and I both loved dearly (we had the bird for 5 years). He is infuriated and wants to inflict the same pain on his little brother like the bird went through.

I am explaining to him that his brother doesn't know any better, but he is still angry.

No insensitive answers please. We are very emotional at the moment.

Thank You

Answer 1

well tell ur son if he cools down and doesnt hurt his brother u willl reward him with a new bird!!!

hope this helps!!

Answer 2

first find out what the f ur youngerest killed the bird for. then talk to your son. try getting a new one and get the youngest to help pick it out so he doesnt murder it again.

Answer 3

All you can do is explain to him and keep explaining to him that little brother didn't know any better. I think a little separation time is in order - explain to little brother that what he did to the bird was wrong, that he hurt the bird, and may no longer treat any animals that way. Let him go to his room, or occupy him with tv or an activity so you can spend some time with older brother.

Answer 4

try just explaining to ur oldest that the baby didnt mean to do any harm to ur bird but at that age we have no concept of death especially of an animal, when i was 4 i accidentally squeezed my moms hamster to hard and i killed it. my mom explained to me that animals cant be played with like toys ect. and supervised me from then on til i was old enough to know better. i grew up never to hurt an animal again but also understand that a one time accident between a young child and a pet may happen.  

Answer 5

Killing animals is the first sign of a serial killer.

Answer 6

as a parent you should have kept the toddler well away from the bird

you cannot trust kids with pets, and visa versa.

too many people now a days think they cannot punish kids for doing wrong.. this is c**p

you can spank the toddler, because it would have had to open the cage, grab the bird and hurt it

that kid did NOT have your permission to do ANY of those things, AND you should have punished immediately

by ignoring this you basically said its okay, and let him off the hook..

if your kid put his hand in a light socket would you say "oh its okay, he didnt know better"? NO!!!

you would smack him down before he did it!

get off the computer and deal with your kids!

Answer 7

you should probably fall on the grenade here.  tell your 10 year old son it was probably your fault for letting the toddler near the bird.  it might be difficult, but you also need to explain that a pre-2year olds mind works very differently than yours or his (the 10 year old).  chances are the toddler does not and will not ever recall the incident.

good luck...gary

Answer 8

Your older son needs to understand that people are worth more than animals. He cannot hurt your younger son. You really should explain to him that he will go to JAIL if he does that to his brother so he will understand. Kids can get confused.

Answer 9

He's 5 ..give him a break.....do you remember what you did at age 5... my niece killed my parakeet when she was 4 1/2....I am sure she had no idea that she squeezed a little to hard.....just tell your older boy that your younger son didn't kill him....you must be wrong....tell him you just noticed that the birds chest was swollen and it looks more like the bird had a heart attack.....you must have been mistaken about his brother actually doing the deed.  They are kids....be a role model for them...

Answer 10

keep him away fromhim til he calms down

Answer 11

I don't know how the h**l your toddler ended up near the bird and how he had the chance and time to kill it and no one was around. This sh*t happens all the time and people start saying how it's just a child that doesn't know better. Well, I don't think that's an excuse but even if it were why and how do children end up alone with animals  and either hurt them or get hurt by them ???? Where is the supervision here??? Your 10 years old is a child too and he's not going to understand why his brother killed the bird. That's why he might get revenge and hurt his brother. Better watch out...and DON'T keep pets if you're not going to take care of them.

Answer 12

Thats horrible. Im so sorry. What you 1st shoulda done is give him a not so hard popping to show him "you cant kill things" so next time he wants to kill an animal he can remember that pain... almost like an electrical  fence. Tell your son he honestly didnt know any better and that your gonna teach him better than that. And discipline ur toddler thats kinda scary.

Answer 13

These aren't really pet related questions... it's more about parenting.

Regardless, I am sorry for your loss.