My only child who is 6 yrs old still poops in his underwear...HELP!!!?

Question

Can anyone please help me with a good behavior idea for when he goes potty, I have done everything, the drs gave me ideas but its not working, anything with a postive out look would be 100% appreciated. I feel like a bad mom but I know I'm not, Im starting to think I have one stubborn little boy so please only postive ideas, no negatives...Thank You so much!

Answer 1

asking him if he needs to go to the washroom every day if he poops only. When he does go to the washroom, give him a reward like cookie or take him to the dollar store and buy a toy, and if he poops his pants discourage him and tell him he cant go anywhere(like if you have a fun event planned cancel it) and tell him because he pooped his pants. or maybe bring in a your friends son around the same age and have him near by and be like "oh james your a really good boy i heard you are fully potty trained you are really lucky" or perhaps if he is really persistent go buy him diapers and make a big deal of it(to embarass him so he doesnt want diapers and will want to go to the washroom) like go to the store and be like "heey look the diaps are one sale i was thinking of getting you some so you dont have to p**p in your pants anymore" hopefully the embarassment will make him stop. it made my little brother a couple years back he used to be REALLY embarassed and he would be like no i dont need them and he actually proved he didnt need them.

hopes all go well if not try and scare him? tell him you need to take him to the hospital because this is very serious matter, also worked with my little brother , started crying once and never had an accident again!

Answer 2

well i have 8 kids and i have experienced this myself,,, it helps to sing them a song to go p**p p**p in the toilet,,, and if they do still p**p p**p in the pottay.. then u should bring out hte wooden spoon,, thar'll straghten them up!

Answer 3

Try to give him rewards! Like stickers or a piece of candy, or you can make a bulletin board and When he goes in the potty 25 times he gets a bigger reward.

Answer 4

~ I would guess at 6 years old he is doing it for attention.

Try to focus less on the potty issue, and give him lots of attention in other areas.  Try to spend a lot of one on one time with him.  Praise him when he uses the toilet, and quietly clean up messes with almost no response when he has an accident.  If he's doing it for attention, then your reactions is what he's looking for.

Is it possible he has a medical issue that's causing this?  Did he used to have bowel control, and now he does not?  If he used to have bowel control, and suddently he doesn't I would ask the pediatrician to refer you to a specialist.  (Assuming there is no life changing events happening that may be causing this.)

Does he have a new sibling, or a recent move/school change?  These things can cause attention getting behaviour.

Good Luck ~

Answer 5

good that ur trying

try doing the dog thing

tell him to use the potty, and when he does he gets a treat. you can even try setting a treat by the toilet, but out of reach.

Answer 6

woah. i would just start as if he were a toddler! get those little toilets, the songs, the books. if that doesnt work then talk to him about it. he should be old enough to understand better.

Answer 7

Have you ever ask your son why?Instead of changing him putting him on the potty, possibly he's doing it for  attention?Have you ever made him wash out his own pants?I had that problem too but my son was7 yrs.old, and everyone was helpful nothing worked (UNTIL MY MOM SAID) to me MAKE HIM WASH OUT HIS UNDERCLOTHES BY HIMSELF)!Do not dump the p**p out, take him the bathroom, tell him to remove his underclothes, HE DUMP OUT THE p**p, the HE IS TOO WASH  THEM OUT BY HIMSELF!!!!It worked for my son because he did not like getting his hands dirty for one, and two he didn't like this smell, and three he didn't like the idea that I wasn't going to do it anymore!Now, that made me feel like I was a bad mother, butI wasn't either JUST LIKE YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER!Then, after he's washed them with either soap(that is intended for hands),or liquid, check them IF THERE IS ANY LEFT AND THERE WILL BE),make him do it again, UNTIL THEY ARE CLEAN, then when they are clean, of course put them the washer, to clean them better, but the next time, he has to go,he'll get to the bathroom in time, because if he doesn't he'll know what will happen.See, if that will work! Oh yeah,DO NOT GO IN THE BATHROOM, WHILE HE IS DOING THIS, because he will cry and pull at your heart strings saying mommy, i'm so sorry please help me,and you'll bend,and helpSO MAM STAY OUT OF THE BATHROOM until he yells he's done,then go in long enough to check,it if not clean enough, make him do it again. It worked for my son, I pray it works for your son.He is to yell for  you when he is done!That is the only  time, you are to go in,when he's done,do what you want, but next (IF THERE IS A NEXT TIME)I don't so, but if there is you'll know what to do.

Answer 8

Many moms are not experiencing relief when their stubborn child resists potty

training all together. With the laundry piling up and the cost of pull-ups

eating away at the weekly budget, it's no wonder many parents feel like they're

ready to flush those unsuccessful potty training techniques down the toilet! I

receive at least one email a week from a mom in the parenting “deep end” asking

for suggestions in this area.

Child-Tested Potty Training Tips for Stubborn Children

Here are my top seven tips for potty training stubborn children:

1. Know that Your Child WILL be Potty Trained – Potty training is one of

the most important skills preschoolers will learn. They do learn it—it's just

that some children are slower than others. Everyone eventually learns how to go

to the bathroom on their own. Have faith! It's just a matter of time.

2. Stay Away from Cute, External Rewards – The more you make potty

training into a game, the more your child will see it as a game. Chances are

they might turn into a competitive battle where you lose. Cute ideas (like

sticker charts for when children “go”, floating Cheerios into the bowl and

having boys aim for it, putting food coloring into the bowl and having your

child get excited about watching the color change) only confuses the

issue—especially when the gimmicks lose their appeal. The rewards of potty

training should be internal: your child should feel good about herself for

learning something new. By all means, encourage you child when he remembers with

a simple, “Great job!”. This is all that is needed for success.

3. Stick with Your Decision to Forgo Diapers and Pull-ups – My belief is

that pull-ups that soak up the uncomfortable wet feeling actually prolong potty

training. One of the children in my life became so comfortable with pull-ups

that he was wearing them well into the school years for night accidents.

Accidents (many of them) will happen. When kids aren’t given the opportunity to

continually experience the natural discomfort that comes from wet clothes, they

have no reason to learn to make potty training a priority. Consider putting a

protective waterproof sheet around their mattress, but stay away from soaker

pads and pull-ups once you have made the shift (and the sooner, the better).

4. Make Potty Training Comfortable – A big person toilet for a small bum

can be a scary thing. Use training potties, potty seats, or have your child face

the toilet when sitting on the throne so they can sit comfortably.

5. Let Go of Constant Reminders and Prodding – The more you make it a big

deal, the more your child will fight you. If you are taking all the

responsibility for your child to remember to go, there will be no incentive or

reason for them to remember. When it comes to potty training, the best reminder

comes from your child’s own bladder—not you! And when your child forgets or

doesn’t listen to their bladder, the pee running down their leg is their next

reminder.

6. Have Your Child Help Clean Up When Accidents Happen – Accidents happen

and are a part of the natural process of potty training. Don’t make a big deal

out of accidents. Instead deal with the accident by happily cleaning it up

together. Have your child help you find dry clothes and deal with washing up.

7. Give Your Child More Responsibilities Around the House – The more

confidence your child feels, the more they will embrace learning any new skill

(including potty training). Look for tasks that your preschooler can be

responsible for and thank her for what she does. Involving your child in the

upkeep of your home is one of the best things you can do for him (see chapter

eight of my book When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your

Kids With You to learn more about how chores can boost your child’s

self-esteem).

Potty training is one of the many skills your child needs to perfect. When you

support your child in listening to the natural cues of their own body, you will

empower him or her with life-long skills. And if you choose to use the above

seven potty training tips for a stubborn child, you'll find that potty training

becomes a process—rather than a power struggle—with a happy ending.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I know it is gross but one mother I knew made her child clean himself up after.  He learned really quick how gross it was and decided it was easier for him to go on the potty.

Answer 10

well..

think of some sort of food [cookies ect.]

that he really loves but doesnt have often

and everytime

he goes to the big boy potty give him one of

the treats that he doesnt have often.

and also tell him that he is going to

start kindergarden soon and when he does

start kindergarden he cant p**p in his undies

Answer 11

Everyone that has answered so far has come up with excellent ideas to help you in the form that you are asking it. However, I want you to think about this...

My little brother is 13 and has that problem. Its doesn't bother him as much and hates when people remind him to clean his underwear properly. No reward, responsibility, nor punishments will change him. And you may wonder 'what's this boy's problem?' or even 'did your mother do something wrong?'

My little brother's issue is that he's autistic. Its the only sign that proves he has is right now. My brother has had it since he was a year old and has greatly improved from early intervention.

Its always best to knock out the worst case scenarios first.

But this is my opinion.

Answer 12

Ummm.. have you potty trained him yet? You could buy a book filled with tips on that stuff.

Answer 13

No kids yet, but I think you just got a great suggestion.from lady

Answer 14

He probably enjoys the attention he gets when he does it.  I would try just rewarding him when he does it the right way with a lot of attention.  When he screws up just tell him go take those off and clean up.  Then whip his little @zz.

Answer 15

MAKE HIM CLEAN IT UP AND DO A TIME OUT TAKE THINGS A WAY LIKE FAV TOYS TV OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT MAKE HIM RUN AROUND NAKED A LITTLE WHILE IT EMBARASSES HIM.  I DID THIS WITH MY SON AND IT WORKED(HE WAS ALMOST 5

Answer 16

he is old enouth to be talked to so sit him down and tell him what he has to do.