My parents abandoned me and now i live with my aunt and uncle... Im 14... is this a normal feeling for me?

Question

I see all my friends and other family members talking about their moms and dads and its like I dont have that. I cant go to sleep and say good night and hug my mom or dad. I cant wake up and hug my mom or dad before I go to skool. I cant even talk to my mom or dad. I mean I cant say I love... I cant do anything involving my mom or dad. Dads arent supposed to leave but its sadly more common. Moms arent supposed to leave either. But when both of your parents just leave.? I dont remember my dad really at all. But its been about ten years. And I am pretty sure that I will never be able to get back all those days that he has been gone. And my mom... I dont really remember her at all. I dont remember what she looks like or talks like. Nothing. I want to be able to call someone mom and call someone dad. I want to hug my mom and dad goodnight and hug them before I go to skool. I want to just be able to walk up to them and say I love you.

Answer 1

Of course it's normal to feel that way.  I would be so depressed if I didn't have my parents.  I have sympathy for you.  My parents almost died the other week from a car accident, and I can't imagine what your going through.  But trust me it's not abnormal to feel this way.  

Good luck ~

Answer 2

Think about it this way a lot of these kids don't get to have a relationship  with their aunt and uncle the way you do, i know they can't replace your parents but you can create a relationship with them in now way that your friends can with their aunt and uncle. Your  too good for your parents if they just left you!

Answer 3

Hahaha!

Oh my!

How fake.

You said you saw your parents having s*x.

And you live in a 70,000 square foot home with your mom and dad and brothers.

Oh my.

Answer 4

i think it's normal for you to want all that. my sister abandoned her daughter and now she lives with us and as much as i hate that my niece calls her mom when my sis hasnt taken care of her since she was born, she does because she loves her. everybody wants someone to love. don't worry cuz it is normal.

Answer 5

My advice is that you make the best with what you have been given. Think about the people in your life that you do have and know that this kind of trial in your life will only make you more of a person for yourself and for others.I know. Been there too.

Fran H.

Answer 6

Your feelings are absolutely normal and proper.  Here's the truth.  You have been given a terrible handicap by being abandoned.  You can overcome the problems but it's tough.  The first thing you need to realize is that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!  Every child is lovable and precious and the fact that your parents have personal problems that kept them from doing what they ought to have done says nothing about your value, beauty, lovability, and prospects.  

  Good for you!!