My parents and my cell phone?

Question

ok my parents said last year that if i got all As and 1 B on my report card that i could get a cell phone. so i worked really hard to do that and i did. then over the summer my mom changed the agreement to if i did the 3 sports available for our school. i didn't think that was fair but didn't say anything. so then i asked my dad if i could get a cell phone without doing all 3 sports (I'm only doing 1) and he said yes. so we were picking out the plan and everything when my mom said she wanted to talk to my dad. when she was done they told my i wasn't getting a cell phone anymore. I'm crying because they did this 2 times!!!! what should i do???? plz help me!!!

Answer 1

It seems your mom just wants what's best for you (lame answer, I know).

Try talking to her about it. Tell her that if you can have a cell right away, you'll try some more sports, and if you start slacking, she can take it away. That may work.  

Answer 2

theres really nothing you can do...u just have messed up parents. try talking to them and seeing whats up...sports can make your grades go down use that or something...but find out why they are working against you and dont cry $hit like this happens all the time get used to it  

Answer 3

I think your mom is being rather childish about this.. She is not standing to her word., maybe you need to tell her that.. After all, you did get good grades.. Sounds like she is finding any excuse for you not to have a phone.. I'm sorry honey that you feel so bad, and I totally understand.. Try talking to both of them, and tell them how you feel and don't get furious or anything, be straight forward, and stay calm.

Good luck.. :)

Answer 4

you can buy a prepaid one all by yourself.  Then what are they to say if you pay for it out of your pocket.   It's crappy they changed their minds but that's a parent for ya.  

Answer 5

Tell them how you feel, you held up your end of the agreement, why don't they do the same, and explain how you feel cheated.

Answer 6

as n bs? wow wut they fink u are?

tell them 2 get fuked

Answer 7

every story has two sides apparently your mother does not feel you are responsible enough to have a cell phone.  so what i would suggest is stop crying and calmly explain to your mother and father that it is important for your safety to have a cell phone especially if you are going to be doing sports.  if she says that you will have to borrow a friends phone to call them in the case of an emergency CALMLY explain that you would feel better if you had one and you are uncomfortable being involved in extra curricular activities without a designated way to get ahold of your LOVING MOTHER AND FATHER.  additionally, be sure to assure them that a cell phone is a privilege not a right and you will not abuse it by going over your minutes and downloading a bunch of BS.  

if she doesnt give it, too bad kid, get your quarters ready and find a pay phone.  

Answer 8

you should tell them mom and dad i really have to talk to you. Be respectful, but also explain to them why you think it's not fair and ask them why they keep doing that. I'm sure they have a good reason but you have to talk to them about it. If their decision remains, wait a bit, and they will give you a phone but they probably don't think you're ready just show them that you are mature. good luck

Answer 9

They never should tell you that if you do this...this will happen and then not follow through.  This works for good things as well as bad things.  Unfortunately, other than talking maturly to them and asking them why they have made this decision and discussing it with them there is nothing you can do. Be mature, find out why and then if it is because they have concerns for this or that...or if it turns out they don't have the finances for it or whatever...see if you can comet to a reasonable solution togther.  

Answer 10

get over it jeez some people dont even have a house

Answer 11

That is way unfair!

Answer 12

OMG my mom did this to me

what i did was suckup to them both and then act like they were the world so that they thought i was SO deserving to hav eit ! im telling you SUCKUP 2 your mom!!!

Answer 13

Well, what kind of parents do that? They need to make up their mind.

I think you should get a cell phone. I don't see why you should not get one. Save money and buy your own if your parents don't want to buy you one.  

Answer 14

from your side of the story, it seems that what your parents did was a bit unfair.

Im no Dr.phil, but maybe you could ask them why she changed the agreement, and hear her out. Maybe she doesnt want you to get a phone because your too young, ( but from what you told me, it seems your a middle/high schooler, and i think thats old enough, but that's your mom's opinion)

Hope this helped, and i hope what i say doesnt s***w anything up with ur family.

Answer 15

this is how i got my cell phon

-- cuz trust me my parents did the same

... i started comming home really late

i never told them where i was going

... i did this so that they start worrying about me

... so then wen they asked me

"where were u... blah blah blah"

den i would always say

"if i had a cell phone... then u could of called me n asked me where i was"

n yahh.. thats how i got my fone

.. i hope this helps :)

Answer 16

dude thats not right. i think u need to sit down and talk to them and be like " if u werent planning on getting me a cell phone than why tell me i could get one? " thats really unfair. ur doing everything possible to get a phone and u clearly deserve it unless u've done something not to deserve it.  

Answer 17

first, you should take anything parents say seriously unless you get it into a written contract. second, you should go around one parent and go to the other one, this always causes problems. third, you could get a part-part-part time job and pay for the phone and plan yourself and not mess with your parents at all. also, its not the end of the world to not have a cell phone. I didn't have one until my junior year of high school and i survived.

Answer 18

You should explain your frustration like an adult. Prove that you are mature enough for a cell phone. Also talk about your grades, and holding them high if you do not do the sports. Its harder on the grades, when you are too involved.

Answer 19

BE INDEPENDENT!

next time you're out with your mates, just get a cheapo pay as u go...

It will be fine

If your parents ask why you have it

Just explain that ur fed up of them cheating you.

U are your own person and they are controlling what you can and can't do... i wouldn't stand up for it...

How old are you by the way?

xx

Answer 20

Calm down and adapt to there mistakes

Answer 21

GROW UP, the world wont give you everything, get a job, go to the store buy the phone and for god sake, dont cry over a phone, its not worth it, cry over grief, or over a missed opporunity but a phone! I don't even use mine. If you lived near me Id give it to you, but till then, take action, dont let things happen to you.

Answer 22

GROW UP!! Get a job and get one of those prepaid phones, it's not the end of the world.

Answer 23

Remind them of what they promised to you. If they say 'sorry' for some unknown reason, try to understand them. Maybe they're quite on a small budget, so they can't buy you your phone yet.

Answer 24

Sounds like they dont want you to have a cell phone at all, I'd question them about this and tell them you keep doing what they ask but they keep changing their minds and making you do something else for it and that it's really confusing for you and upsetting you.

Answer 25

They probably decided that they don't have enough money to do it right now (I can't think of a better reason why a parent would hold off on new expenses)... either that, or they think you aren't ready for it.

Ask them why they aren't giving you a cell phone and, if it is the money, get a job. If it is the responsibility issues, work hard to prove yourself and you'll eventually get it. Or, get a job and buy your own anyway.

Answer 26

what i would do is tell them that you don't think its very fair and calmly explain the situation and say that the first agreement was to get all A's and 1 B, and you worked really hard to do that, and now you are suppose to keep your grades and do 3 sports and you think that's going to be really hard and that you want to be able to have some what of a social life and while juggling three sports keeping high grades you aren't going to be able to do that very well so ask if maybe 1 sport would be enough rather then 3

Answer 27

Unfortunately, you don't have the last word in this, which is not fair at all.  Your parents are in the wrong on this one and if they make a deal, they should keep up with it, not add to it.  Maybe you should tell them in a very adult-like manner that what they are doing is not sticking to the original deal.  You expected one thing and then BOOM at the last minute they change their minds.  They would be upset if they went out to buy a car, made the aggreements and then the car dealer said, "oh, wait, even though you just paid me X amount of dollars for this car which is non-refundable, you have to pay X amount more in order to actually take it home."  I guarantee they wouldn't put up with that.  And in a way, that is what they are doing to you.  It's just not fair.  

Answer 28

be thankful you don't have to pay the bills...I'm 15 and I pay $45 a month for my phone. I mean unless you are out all the time, do you really think you need one or do you just want one? Then again, I don't think it's fair they have made agreements with you which they have broken. That's is not setting a good example for you. You should talk to them.

Answer 29

you rents sound like pricks! but just, do the sports and cry and whine ALL THE TIME! AND keep the house phone line tied up ALL THE TIME!

Answer 30

talk to them and tell them how you feel.

its never happened to me but ive gotten my cell phone taken away for over a month and i wasnt too happy. i actually cried. but try to keep your mind off of it. put your mind to 1 sport and stick with it unless you want to do band or something. good luck! and hope i helped!

Answer 31

stop asking them! my god