My parents are NEVER satisfied with me?

Question

i get a 96 on a test- they expect a 100

i get straight A's- but the A's arent high enough

i run for school pres and get 2nd place (vice pres.)-u could have been pres

i make a sports team-but theres always room for improvement

i work hard alll the time and the only reason i do is so maybe once in awhile they can just say "great job im proud of you"

everything i ever do is never enough for them how do i deal with this it makes me soo sad.

Answer 1

Eh, my parents were like that too, over a 4.00 GPA in high school, varsity sports teams all 4 years, etc... but there was always room for improvement.  I eventually just got fed up with it and decided I was going to go above and beyond... 4 undergrad degrees later, 4 years of college sports, and almost done with a phd in Math they are almost proud of me =)  But I guess it is good they pushed me or I may have ended up like some of my friends, dropping out of college and living at home.  Who knows...  My advice though, either tell them you are feeling the pressure and they don't appreciate all you do, or go above and beyond what anyone expects!

Answer 2

god bless u just be positive

Answer 3

You are doing wonderful, in fact, sensational. Keep up the good word. Just do your best, your parents should be soooo happy they have a daughter as articulate as you!!

Answer 4

That is horrible.  Have you tried talking to them or even just yoru mom?  Tell her that you are trying your best but it just feels like they do not appreciate you.  It is possible that they just do not realize the impression they are giving you? Parents want their kids to be thebest at everything especially if they were good at something or even more so if they were not, but it gets out of hand sometimes.  Talk to them and tell them how you feel.  If you are afraid, talk to a teacher, counselor, adult friend or relative and ask them to help you talk to them.  Good luck and please do not stop trying your hardest over this.  It would hurt no one but you!  Keep up the good work!

Answer 5

dont do stuff to make ur parents happy if ur happy with the grades u get then good . with sports dont do sports that ur parents want do sports that u want . its not ur parents life to live its urs

Answer 6

My parents are the exact same way. When I make a 95 on a test and my mom tells me "You could've got a 100" I tell her, "So what? I did the best I could and that's all that matters." or if I'm in a bad mood "I got an A on a test, what have you done lately" or "It's not like you got all 100's in school"

Nobody is perfect and your parents shouldn't try and make you perfect. Tell them how it makes you feel and stop caring what they think. As long as you did the best you could, you should be happy with yourself.

Answer 7

Omg i know what you're feelin girl. I've been through the whole 96 shoulda been a 100 thing. i moved to a new state this year and the move was pretty hard on me and the kids were really harassing me at my new school. (because of the way i talk, act, where i'm from, even stupid things like musical taste) i guess this caused me to get distracted cause i wasn't making any friends. I used to get straight A's before i moved. I ended up gettting a B (OMG) in a class the quarter after i moved and my parents got soooo mad at me and yelled at me. my brother got THREE B's and they didn't even care. they we're just like "we're glad you're trying hard". i got angry at them for that and they got mad at me again for being angry with them. The next quarter i got my grade back up and they didn't even tell me good job. If i do really well in a jazz band concert my mom doesn't even want to talk to me about it cause she doesn't want me to "throw my life away" and be a musician. I made it into the gifted class at my old school but again they always think i can do better.

all i can give you as advice is to tell them that you'd like to be more appreciated. it didn't work with my parents but maybe it'll work with you. Just keep telling YOURSELF that you're doing a great job.

Answer 8

sounds like my family. i bring home great grades and they say "there's no way you earned them, teachers give you those grades." and i'm sitting there like "no they don't. 150 out of 1,000 kids are failing!"

Answer 9

I know!Can you believe it that there was once that I got 98/100 on a test and they almost punished me!And when we got our grades I got 5 of A++ but 1 A and they didn't let me watch TV for a month!

Answer 10

calm down. it may suck but are u satisfied with ur self. stop concentrating on what they want and more of what u want . if u concentrat on what they want and all that negativity ull never be at peace with urself witch should be important to u.

Answer 11

Aww that sucks because you sound like a really smart girl :[

I'm proud of you if that helps :D

Your parents just think that you're able to do better but I think but they should definatly applaud you more often. Perhaps you just need someone else to tell your parents how good you are. A good deed like this shouldn't go unnoticed

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Answer 12

i know exactly how you feel. my parents are just like that and i'm always trying my best its just that they are never satisfied. well you know that you're tryin your hardest, so you should be proud of your self. maybe you should just let them know that you tried your best occasionally; they should be proud of you too.