My parents are WAY to strict. help!?

Question

I'm going to be a freshman in high school in the fall, and my parents are saying that i can't have friends over afterschool if they're not home! and they both work full time! Plus, they're saying that a guy can't drive me to a date until i have my license, and i can't get my liscense unil im 17! It's so not fair. How can i get them to be more flexible??

Answer 1

calm down and take baby steps

Answer 2

They say those things for a good reason, if you have frirends over they are responsible whether they are there are not. If somethings happens they could get into alot of trouble and maybe even go to prison depending on what it is.

When I was 13 I had friends over without my parents being home, we got into my mom's liqour cabinet, and one of my friends got alcolhol poisoning, her mom press charges on my mom and my mom did 3 years of probation with 9 hour cof community service every saturday.

As a freshman in highschool you don't need to be riding in cars with boys if they are driving they are at least two grades ahead of you, more experienced sexually and usually thats all they have on their mind. Some of them are crazy enough to rape you if you turn them down, and if you don't there is the possibility of pregnancy, and/or stds

Answer 3

get over it they are just caring for you

i really dont care if i get thumbs down, those who give me thumbs down probaly have sucky parents who dont care what they do.

Answer 4

Mine are strict too but that's mostly because of our culture, and I can't change that.

Talk to your parents about it. A lot of overprotected kids/under strict parents tend to rebel a lot and make mistakes in doing so. Your parents need to give you some trust because they are being unreasonable about it. It isn't fair to you that they're out most of the time. I would join clubs if I have to so you can hang out with your friends after school. Beg them for freedoms, and try to prove how resposible you can be. Even tell them to let you have some restrictions with a freedom(like you can date but it has to be in public, with other people such as a double date). Not getting your licence until your 17? They probably think that because they suppose that younger kids will make mistakes by getting into accidents. But age isn't always related to maturity, parents make a big mistake with that. Prove to them with that that you are responsible enough when you're 16, and you can't always depend on them for rides. Just talk to them, it's the best thing. I know I can't with my parents. :-/ Or brothers.

If they're still extremely strict with you, move the h**l out once you're 18!

And "hi", parents don't always know what's best for their child. I'm very inactive because my parents think there are kidnappers in our suburban area, and they don't want me to get "darker"(cultural thing) so I don't really go out until after the sun starts setting. Yes, some are concerned but teenagers have to be teenagers or they'll lose out on certain aspects of life they'll need in the future(like knowing what to do in a situation. No matter what age you are, if you don't know about it, you won't be prepared for it).

Answer 5

they just care about u for the driving part but about the friends thats not cool.

Answer 6

GOOD LUCK, My mom was so strict I had NO friends ! To this day I still hold it against her. Im 30 !

Answer 7

I don't know if there is a way.

I'll be a freshman too.

My parents are the same way, no friends over after school, even if they are here, they aren't comfortable with teenage drivers, and they don't want me hanging out with anyone who smokes or is older than me.

Those are just three.

Sometimes sit downs don't work, they don't with my parents.

You can try though.

good luck!!

Answer 8

i don't want to discourage you but my parents were the same way and now that i'm older i see why and greatly appreciate what they did for me. i'm only 20 btw

Answer 9

If I was fourteen and my parents were working full time i'd have boys over ha ha.

Answer 10

you'll get over it. i can't have friends over after school when my mother isn't home (i think...) most places you can't get your license when you're 16 anyways and the other rule is dumb. talk to them and tell them how you feel. don't whine, it's make you seem like a baby and start with one rule at a time. first try the friend one then when you're 15 or 16 try the license one. that way it gives them time to think. good luck

Answer 11

Sit down and have a serious chat, tell them that you would do more chorces and tell them you a responsable enough to have friends over (at least)

Answer 12

Oh get over it. They will cut you some slack eventually.

Answer 13

well, your parents just want to protect u well u can also talk to them

Answer 14

They're tying to protect you from bad things happening while they aren't there. You can try to talk to them as a mature teenager, not as a whiny brat and explain how you feel and ask if you could work together to set up boundaries you are all happy with. But if it doesn't work, you should honestly just be grateful that your parents care enough to try to protect you. A lot of kids don't have that.

Answer 15

you deserve some freedom within the next year, its true your parents are only trying to protect you but you are old enough to be home alone with a friend. tell them that you feel very restricted as to what you can and cannot do, but don't push it or they might set even more boundries. :)