My parents are getting a divorce, what should I do?

Question

I come from a christian family of 5 kids, and love each of my parents very very much. There was no good reason for this divorce, quite honestly I don't really even know the reason, but I know enough of it to say that it was/is totally unnecessary. The question I'm facing is, "who do I live with"? How do I choose which parent to live with? I think I have to make a decision soon, but quite honestly I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I'm 18 and just starting college, soon I will be living on my own, (within a year or two) but I just can't afford it right now. What should I do?

Answer 1

Yes, if your parents are getting divorced, I'm sure they did all they could to hold it together. And that there is a reason for this, you're just too young to understand it. And good for them for shielding the truth for you, because you don't need to know that. If you're worried about hurting their feelings, have you asked them what they want? Did they say you have to choose? I guess think about who you really want to live with, and then think of a logical reason why you want to live with that person. Like, if I live with mom, it will be closer to school. And then just give that reason to your dad. So neither parent feels bad. Do both parents want the kids? Usually the kids go with the mom. It actually isn't fair if your parents are making you choose. You shouldn't be put in that position to have to worry about their feelings. And personally, you should tell them that. They're probably too upset over the divorce to see that. But you're an adult and should voice how you feel.  

Answer 2

if your parents are getting a divorce, i'm sure there is a reason. it may seem unnecessary to you but it could be something as simple as maybe they're just not in love with each other anymore. whatever it is, there's definitely a reason. if there's 5 kids, i'm sure neither of your parents will be offended if you decide to live with one and not the other. as long as you make an effort to have a relationship with both of them, everything will be fine. i am a child of divorce so believe me, i know. at least you will not be growing up with this as part of your life and having to deal with custody battles. you are old enough to make your own decision. each parent will want what's best for you so make your decision based on that. its not selfish, even if it feels that way, its just what's right. as life goes on, just make time for both of them and they'll always love you no matter what.  

Answer 3

I think you should live with your mother.  I am not 100% sure about it, but women, in general, are nicer to their kids than men.  Sorry, but it is the truth.