My parents are getting a divorce?!?!?!?

Question

I'm a 14 year old girl whos way more conected to my mother then my father but I still love both of my parents and i've lived in this house all my life I love it and my room and my mother was going to move to an apartment and she said she dosent know if she can aford me let alone herself but if I do move with her i'll deathly miss my cats at my dads house... WHAT SHOULD I DO1?!!?!??!

Answer 1

Your Mom can find a place where cats are allowed.I'm concerned about your mom saying that she may not be able to afford you. Can you stay with your Dad so that your not uprooted from your home ? Also,your dad will be paying child support for you if you live with your Mom.Try not to worry.So many young people are faced with their parents divorce,as I did,& although it's hard,you'll get through it,I promise.Remember that their divorce is about their relationship,& they both still love you,&  always will.

Answer 2

my parents got a divorce....me and my brother stay with my dad every second weekend and on thursdays....and my mum the rest of the week

if your parents talk they can talk about it and that way you see them both

hope it helps

Answer 3

You can't really do anything.  My parents divorced when I was 11.  It was awful but eventually I learned that I had to protect myself and make decisions that were best for me and not my mom or my dad.  They loved me but I think they hated each other even more.  It was ridiculous how they behaved and very immature.

But you know, I turned out OK.  As a matter of fact I turned out great.  

I decided that I wasn't going to be a silly adult like most I observed.  I was not going to be with someone just because I 'loved' him.  I was going to be the best wife I could be and I was going to find a man that wanted to be happy and be the best husband he can be.  

Stay focused on your 'job' as a young person.  Your job is to learn how to be a responsible adult.  Most kids don't realize that they have a job.  They just go along oblivious to their future.

Everything you do today affects your future so you take care to keep that in mind.

You are your best friend now.  Give yourself good advice (and follow it).  You will be fine.  Before you wedding day you will live in several different homes and go through a few different pets.  Life changes constantly and you need to change with it.

You can ride in the passenger seat of your life or you can drive.  If you drive, you can avoid most potholes, if you just go along for the ride you have no control when something is in your path.

Answer 4

Go with the flow, visit the cats when you visit your dad, or stay with your dad or see what transpires between your parents.  Sounds like your mom is still trying to figure out what she's going to do and is working things out in her head out loud.  

I'm sure your parents care about you very much and will make every effort to ensure that you have a life as close as possible or maybe better (there won't be any arguing between your parents anymore hopefully) than it was before.  

Answer 5

The process of the divorce will be very hard on both your parents. The last thing they need is to worry about you. You need to try to comply with what ever decision they make in your behalf. They both love you and will do what is best for you. Trust them. This divorce is between them...it has nothing to do with you, as far as them making this decision. Good luck.  

Answer 6

Let thing run their course.... in the long run you will see that this break-up is better then your parents staying together and being unhappy... talk to your friends ( I am sure many of them have gone through the same situation whit their parents)....just concentrate on school and get a good friend that you can talk to when things really get rough...

Answer 7

may i suggest what one of my friends did when her parents got divorced she moved in with her grandparents so her parents could fight over her

Answer 8

I'm really sorry your parents are putting you through this. The best thing that you can do is to take care of yourself. If you need to vent, find a counselor at school or let your parents know that you want to talk to someone besides them. It's both of their responsibility to make sure you make it through this hard time okay. If you want to live with your mom, then do it. But make sure you spend time with your dad too. He loves you just as much! If your mom can't afford to take you then tell your dad that he needs to help her for YOUR benefit. Tell both of them that this is a life altering situation that you have to deal with but have had no say in any of it at all. You haven't been given a choice but that's how life is sometimes. If your parents are good ones they will sacrifice whatever they need to take care of your needs. It is their obligation to do so- make sure they realize it! Good luck, sweetie. Hope it works out for you- keep your chin up!