My parents are getting divorced?

Question

I'm so angry and starting to feel theyre not even worth my time with the way theyre treating this. How do i handle this?

Answer 1

It would be nice to know how long they been married, or how old you are..........it is their life to do if they arent happy.

Answer 2

just know that thousands of kids have gone through what you're going through. it sucks, but sometimes it's for the better.

Answer 3

if you can get them together for once. tell them how you feel, and you'll maybe cry just saying it so just run in your room, i bet they'll talk to you about it nicely. and make you feel better

Answer 4

Having your parents get divorced is a hard thing

My mom does this program called rainbows that helps kids and adults with parents or themselfs going threw a divorce.  See if something like that is in your area

Answer 5

Try to relax. I know what it's like, i was young when my parents started arguing and divorced. I remember sitting on the floor watching them yell at each other. Talk to a close relative or friend about it. As much as you don't want them to divorce, things get better when they do, it's easier. Try sitting down with them, chances are they're being immature and arguing and yelling all the time. So, tell them how you feel and say that if they are going to keep living like this say you want to live with another relative or something. Give them something to think about, make them know that you don't feel very supported at this time.

I know it's tough, but you will get through this. Stay true to yourself, try not to go overboard. (If that made sense to you)

Answer 6

Remember life is not a bed of roses its more like a journey not to reach a destination and hurdles will always be there in ur journey.. these hurdles can caused by u urself or by some other people and you always have two options in ur life

1.either learn fron the hurdles and keep moving on with a clean heart

2.repent throughout ur life with anger and get stuck at the same place

if your parents want to divorce then its their life ,yes ull feel bad abt it but you can do nothing abt it , the only thing you can do is learn from the mistake your parents have made and become sure that u'll not do the same thing and destroy the life of ur children ... Aceept everything in ur life may it be good or bad , get a good councellor and tell him how u feel , talk abt ur problems with other ppl (mostly good friends), find a helping hand ...These little things will make a difference ...

Remember life will be as ull make it so make it good, live free and be happy always coz i have learnt this in life after my father left us , i havent seen hin for the last 6 years ...

Think abt it ull get along dont worry

Answer 7

You can talk 2 them and discuss yr problems on why they want to do this!

HOWEVER

you just cant stop them from getting a divorce

Are you the one who lays in the bed w/them at night?

Do you pay rent?

Do you know what emotinally they have been going through Ofcourse it doesnt take a rocket scientist to say that they had been problems!

So i hope the best goes for you !

Answer 8

oh im so sorry. I wish I could tell you that they will never divorce and that everything will be OK. But maybe you don't know that for sure. This guy I knew said there mom and dad was getting a divorce and she had the divorce papers ready and everything and then they finally put aside their differences and got counciled and they are doing well! Tell them how you feel. Tell them this is really affecting you and that you are upset about it. I will keep you in my prayers.. Star for you and I will keep praying for you (even though i dont know you) lol God bless you and keep you safe.

Answer 9

my parents got divoresd and they act like childs around each other since they r angry at each otther you have to be the one who acts like the adult. make sure you visit both parents frequently and remember divorse is comoon in the usa and dont blame your self. good luck

Answer 10

Well idk but I just want to tell you u are pretty lucky because I wish my parents were geting a divorce cuz my dad is a dipshit!

Answer 11

That's horrible!  Your parents, the two people in the world who are supposed to love you the most, are destroying your home and dividing your life in two because they can't keep the commitment they made.  It's more and more common these days, which is why you'll see answers like "just deal."  That's tragic.

Just try to focus on what you do have, especially if you have siblings.  You guys need each other more than anything now.  For your own strength and sanity, resist the temptation to get back at your parents.  That will only divide your family more.

Try to make the best of this situation they created for you.  Let them know how disappointed you are but continue to be respectful.  I'm truly sorry.

NOTE: This only applies if you are a minor.  If you're over 18, it's their deal and they did right by sticking together until you were grown.

Answer 12

you shouldnt do anything it isnt your buisness

Answer 13

do not angry, they have their reason, i believe they always love you, calm down, have a good talk with them

Answer 14

I'm in the same boat as you, except my parents are separated. The way I handled it is that I accepted the fact that they were no longer together and got over it. As time goes, people change. Their love for each other changed. However, their love for you has not. They still love you and will always be your parents. That's what I realized. Although they weren't together physically, they were together in my heart. Once you realize this, the divorce will go much smoother.

Answer 15

Do not take sides just let them handle this theirselves and hopefully they will handle this in an adult way.  

Answer 16

learn to accept it

my parents got a divorce when i was 4

Answer 17

Have you looked at the whole situation from another perspective? If not, sometimes, divorce is 'good'. My parents don't love each other anymore, at least not that kind of love. They sleep in seperate beds in seperate rooms. It hurts me to know they both will probably die not living a life that they want with someone they truly love. I think that is one of the saddest things (among many other things of course) that could happen.

If you haven't talked to  your parents yet, try doing so and maybe you would understand more?

Answer 18

Don't make it about you. They are going through enough stress. Be mature & supportive of them. Know that it is all in perfect divine right order. Maybe they will feel less stressed by your example.

Answer 19

Bite the bullet.. I've been through it 3 times before I was even a teenager.. I've never had a mother.. Sure it's not fun losing a parent, but I guess your parents have to decide what's best for them, and you. It isn't always fair when you're stuck in the middle of it.. but it isn't you're fault.

Answer 20

Dear wide,

I am so sorry your parents are getting too divorced.

It is so sad and heart breaking.

Please know this is not your fault at all in what is going on.

Please do not be angery with them,but too love them and pray too God for wisdom and strenth through this.

My bet is go talk too a school counsler if they have one,or seek some Kinda spiritual help.

Please do not get advice from your friends,but from some one who  have had excperience like in your situatoin ok.

God bless you,I wish i can help you more.

Kenny

Answer 21

Don't take sides this is something between the two of them.Why are you angry?their divorce doesn't mean they don't love you any less,if they were to stay together for the sake of the children it is the children that suffer because of the fighting & tension between the parents.My parents divorced when I was 5 & that was 32 years ago & I look back now & think it was the best thing they ever done as my mum has since met her soul mate & is the happiest most looked after lady.

Answer 22

You have to accept the fact that THEY are getting a divorce not you.  Yes what they do does effect you but that's their business not yours.  Don't put yourself in the middle.  If you want them both to be happy this might just be the right thing for everyone, its not easy but wouldn't you rather them split up and not fight so much than be together because you want them to be together?  My mom stayed with my step dad because of me and my brother and in the long run, it made everyone involved miserable.  i would of much rather them split up than go through that.  Its hard at first but it will get better after time.  hang in there.

Answer 23

it sucks but all you can do is really just roll with the punches i know that sounds like the crappiest advice on the planet but that's really all anybody can tell you just try to remember both your parents love you no matter what and this might be for the better with the two separated no more yelling swearing fighting etc and after the shock wears off your parents they will become happier don't take sides with your parents because they both signed the divorce papers there feelings just changed and its a hard situation to go through but all you can do is just suck it up I'm sorry and good luck p.s if your really feeling down talk to a close friend who will just listen

Answer 24

Divorce is such a remorseful, depressing time. I went through this when I was 12. It affects your everyday lifestyle because there is such a tension that is formed between you and your parents.

For me, the only way I could handle this, was to separate myself from the entire process. Whenever I knew that my parents were going to be home together, I made plans with my friends, just to leave the house. Previously, I had been in my house during those fights, and it was just a horrible atmosphere, and just not healthy for my emotional well-being.

Staying away and avoiding the fights, is honestly the best way to get through this process. Your parents are good people, but just not good together. Right now it may seem absurd and ridiculous to understand but I learned that once they are separated, they are good people. Divorce is something that seems horrible at first, but it gets better in time, and your relationship might even become stronger.

Answer 25

I am sorry to hear that.  I know it has to be devestating.  To be honest, I wished that my parents would have gotten a divorce.  They fought all of the time and it was such a stressful household.  One should never stay together because of the kids.  I know it hurts you now, but you will have the best of both worlds when you can still see them both.  I know it's not the way that you hoped that life would turn out and can see why you are angry.  Things just happen.  How old are you?  The best you can do is just remain neutral, but still love them both.  They need support too.  There are also support groups that you can check out for your area.

Answer 26

My parents are divorced too.

Everything will turn out okay eventually.

I still get my down days, where I feel like my life sucks and I just want to crawl under a rock. But I guess its okay.

Just remember there's tons of kids going what your going through at this exact moment, I don't know about you but it makes me feel alittle bit better knowing that I'm not alone.

I know its hard, but it gets alittle easier eventually.

Hope I helped

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