My parents are gonna pick a husband thats 3-5 years older than me!?

Question

I don't want a guy 3-5 years older than me! I prefer guys that are just one year older that me! :) My parents might give in. Besides, they also want the guy to be smart, rich, and to be a good muslim. I'm looking more for a hot muslim guy! Whoa, my dad is 12 years older that my mom, isn't that weird!?

Answer 1

youre clearly too stupid and immature to get married

Muslim women are intelligent serious women - no self respecting Muslim man would want  a wife as shallow as you

Answer 2

If you live in the USA, you do not have to agree to your parents arangement. It's illegal to be forced into marrying someone you don't want. Regardless tell your parents how you feel and tell them you won't marry till they find someone more your age.

Answer 3

why do your Parents choose your Husband ???

are they gonna marry him or you ?

in Islam if you reject him they have no right to force you !

Answer 4

Shakila, 3-5 years is the perfect gap. Look at Tony Blaire and his wife? She looks like his mother? The reason for that is, both are the same age.....

There are many reasons as to why the husband should be a little older than his wife. I'll just point out 2...

1. Women age quicker than men - scientific fact. So if you're both the same age, when you're in your 40's, you'll look like his mother. He won't find you attractive, and will lust over younger women, thus the possibility of him going astray.

2. Women are maturer than men, if you're round about the same age, you will not be compatible, personality wise.

There are many more reasons, but I think the 2 above are enough to ponder over.

Answer 5

just talk to your parents about it and tell them what you want

Answer 6

Um--- i think you shoudl be taking this a bit more seriously than a husband that you'd be physically attracted to. An attractive husband doesn't necessarily mean a good husband (and can in fact mean otherwise) and if you are worried if you will still feel the urge to express your emotions physically if he ins't "s**y", then you need to know, there are different levels of attraction. "Being" with someone you care about of love is MUCH better than "being" with someone who is just s**y.

It's not weird for there to be such a difference, and in some cases, it's better because you that guys take longer than women to mature right? Sometimes that results in an age gap. And 3-5 years is very normal, even in the western society.

If you're not comfortable though, that's what's important. I fyou honestly don't want someone who is older than you by much, then get them to take into consideration.

And honestly, do take you parents' thoughts into considreration. Financial stability, intelligence and above all a good muslim are very, very important.

Whatever you choose, Allah Maik habibté

Answer 7

I am 16 and my wife is 21 ! so theres a 5 years difference between us !  5 years is not a big deal !

Just accept whatever they got instored for u !

Answer 8

Age should not be an issue. The main thing is that he has a good personality.

Your parents have an age gap of 12 years. I bet they get on like a house on fire!

My brother is 11 years older than his wife and Masha'Allah they are such a happy couple.

3-5 years is peanuts!

Answer 9

3-5 years is a good age gap. If the guy is that little bit older he is more mature.

Infact upto 6 years age gap is classed as excellent!

Answer 10

Its up to you if you want to marry him or not. But I think you are being vain by discriminating against him for being 3-5 years older than you. Don't write him off just because of his age, if he is a nice guy. The age difference won't matter as much when you two will be in your 70's.

Answer 11

Thats not much old... seriously that is such a small age gap i'd be okay with it and i would look for a husband who has good iman Firstly and things like compassionate, kind. I'd get bored of JUSt a pretty face everyday LOl But inshallah u get the full package.. LOl ....we can't always get what we want but inshallah you get the one who u NEED!!!

salamz sis!

Answer 12

i love old women, i am looking for a girl who is 15/20 years older than me. how old r u?

Btw i am hot

Answer 13

Whoaaa what's with Idrees Butt's answer...

I agree with moroccan, you seem too immature for marriage.

Answer 14

as people get older the age difference gets smaller...

a good Muslim is hard to find while there are plenty of guys 1 and 2 years older than you.

Answer 15

is this the stone age?

Answer 16

well dear I think you are being a bit impractical.  3-5 years is nothing.

Answer 17

Psychologically proven is that a girl should be younger than the guy... and benifical is 3 - 5 years difference...

in short, if both are of the same age , or a year difference, they are consider young blood and will not understand each other properly..if the guy is a little older he would understand you better since he has gone through that phase you are going through !

Answer 18

it seems you are marrying for wrong reasons.

and you seem a bit imature for marriage.  lol

remember prophet (SAW) said marry for number one DEEN!

not if the person is s**y or 2 or 5 years older.

you need to get priorities straight and the real reason for marriage... sake of allah. not becuase the man is s**y. that is soooo childish.

mayb leave it a few years when youv grown up a bit.

marriage is not a joke or easy. hard work lots of hard work. so you need to be ready spiritually and mentally. and seems you are niether.

my advice to you is wait

Answer 19

HELLO!!!!!!

Are you people crazy? The problem is NOT the age difference. She cannot pick a nice guy she wouldn’t know one if she saw one, as she is not allowed or encouraged to find out or to even know what she wants. Use what brains and little common sense you were given for goodness sake!

Shakila what is weird is the fact your parents would even think about picking your husband and that you find it acceptable and normal….it is neither. And when you get to the point you can’t stand the sight of him anymore how hot he may be will not matter.

Answer 20

3-5 years isn't really that much of a difference.

Peace for all!

Answer 21

clearly, you are not ready to get married, think about marriage, or even think about thinking about marriage!!

you have a lot of growing up to do..thats how i use to think when i was about 14, so dont worry about finding a spouse till you reach your 20s. and your parents are not choosing your spouse for you..you are.

and no, its not weird.

Answer 22

Honey, it's okay if he's 3-5 years older than you. I see nothing wrong with that. Try meeting him first.....Maybe you'll find that he looks younger than his real age....Maybe you'll like him.

If you get married to someone who's the same age as you & as  you both get older, he'd look younger than you. I personally don't recommend getting married to someone the same age as you.But yet again nobody knows where they might end up & with who if you know what I mean ;)

Answer 23

Parents should not pick a husband for their child.  The child should pick their own mate and seek approval from the parents...

Answer 24

Well, Muhammad married Aisha when she was six, so age doesn't matter in Islam. (he was 54)

Answer 25

this is not answer of ur question my sister

for" Peanut" AND her anti Islam heroes

sorry i have to give her answer

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