My parents are having problem...? Serius Question ?

Question

Hi. I am a 14 years old boy and I live in Malaysia. My mother wants to go to Singapore to reunite with her brothers and sisters. All of them are going, except my mother. My father not allowed my mother to go to Singapore. My mother looks very sad, she didn't even smile. When I asked my father why he couldn't let my mother to go to Singapore, he said "I don't need to know". What should I do? I don't want my mother to look sad everyday. What can I do to help my mother?

Actually I kind of thing that they might be arguing. My mother complains that she didn't have a personal time. She didn't have time to go for shopping, she didn't have time to relax. However, my father seems to have a lot of personal time. I thing that my mother personal live seems to be "controlled" by my father. Like she is his servant. What can I do? I don't want them to arguing...

Please help! This is a serious question and no jokes.

Answer 1

The problem with parents is that, in addition to being our parents, they are adults in an adult relationship which doesn't include us.

I'm sorry your father seems more interested in himself than your mom's happiness.  But you still have to respect your father and mother.  At 14, all you can do is try to be helpful to your parents and stay out of their struggles.  

No one wants to see a parent unhappy.  Try to remember this for when you're married, and don't let this poor example become something you do.

I hope things change, stay strong!  

Answer 2

I'm sorry you are going thru this. Unfortunately you are 14, and a child (not in the baby sense but in your parents eyes) and you have to keep out of your parents marital troubles. I know you care for your mother but you are not old enough to do anything for her. It's up to her to get out of this situation or change it. Just keep letting your mom know you love her and support her in anything she decides to do. That is all she needs from you.

Answer 3

your mother is am adult she can go where ever she wants to. tell her to just blow off what he said and go anyway  

Answer 4

I'mm 14 to you got to stand up to your father.

but the problem is some customs andreligionssdon'tt let females do whatever they want i think that'ss wrong but this your mother were talking about she took care of you since you were littlele right?

i say go talk to father and tell him she is a human being and she has the right to do whatever she wants and just keep bothering your dad until he listen and if he tried to do something with get someone else involved.

Answer 5

Wow, I am sorry to hear about your troubles with your parents but the bottom line is that it is not your trouble at all. You have to stay out of it and let your parents work this out. I know you feel bad for your mom but she is a grown woman who has a choice to not let herself be controlled. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

I'm sorry that you have to go through all this.

Since your mom mentions how she doesn't have any personal time, etc; your dad must hear this to.

He might be scared that one she goes to Singapore to reunite with her siblings that she might not want to come back or something to him; however -

You're her son.

I have no doubts that she would come back to you because she loves you.......

Your dad likes to control. Many fathers are like this. It's pretty sad though eh?

You can't really do anything right now because we don't want you to get in trouble with your dad for asking too many questions.

Maybe give some power to your mother and say she can go if she wants to.

She's her own person - she doesn't need a man's permission.................

Easier said than done, etc

Answer 7

i feel for you... i'm sorry.. but your dad is a jerk.. mosttttt men are

Answer 8

AT THIS POINT I DONT THINK THERES NOTHING YOU CAN DO,,N YES MOST MEN TRY TO CONTROL THERE WIFES OR GFS LIFE,,JUST DONT TAKE SIDES WITH EITHER ONE OF THEM,,YOUR MOM WILL HAVE TO RELIZE THAT SHE HAS A LIFE TO,,N THAT SHE CANT KEEP PUTING YOUR DADS FEELINGS FIRST,,,PEACE

Answer 9

You might want to get a book by Louise Hay called you can heal your life...or some CD's by Jerry & Esther Hicks or go to their websites...If you can understand what is happening on a spiritual level you will see that your mother is not a victim. We all create our life. If your mother believes she is going to see her family she will end up seeing them. If she believes she is the power or God is the power & control of her life your father would not only stop controlling her but he might even make sure she has free time. Read it all for yourself & continue to love & respect them for where they are on their journey.