My parents are hogging my kid?

Question

okay i am 17 so i still live with my parents (really don't want to) but i just had a baby and my parents are always hogging her from the time we get up to the time we go to bed then they go well we babysit for free and i didn't ask them to baby sit but anyways i really don't want to say anything because i don't want to make anyone mad because i still have to live here until i am 18 what can i do someone please help

Answer 1

HOnestly - if you live under their roof, and are dependant on them financially - you are at their mercy.  SOrry, but its the truth.  The only solution here is to become independant and take care of your baby on your own.

Answer 2

you can live wherever you want when you turn 16, but whatever, just take your baby and say your going to nurse, or just have some mommy and baby time and go to your room, or go for a walk. or take a warm bath together

Answer 3

That's the way it's gonna be as long as you have kids as a teenager and under your parents roof. Sorry

Answer 4

I've been in your situation and it is always hard to keep your hands off of a new baby (especially for a new grandma;).  I would Tell your parents (nicely) that you want to make sure you are taking responsibility for raising your child and that you appreciate all of your parents help, but that if your mom is always the one feeding, changing, holding, or caring for your baby than how can you ever feel confident you can do it on your own.  Be thankful that your parents are so accepting of your child.  Take your baby in a different room for feedings or a little play time, baby massage, or cuddling.  Get a wrap or ring sling and start baby wearing.  You will develop a close bond and it will not be so easy for you parents to come and grab her away from you www.thebabywearer.com  .

Good luck.  It doesn't get any better I'm afraid.  My oldest is now 11 and still has that close relationship with his grandparents.  I've hardly seen him all summer-except when I go to their house and steal him for a night;)  What's a mom to do?

Answer 5

i think there just trying to help you.  If you were alone while going through this you would be exhausted and alone and scared.  Let them help but talk to them maybe say that you need some space with the baby alone.  Let them know that you need to bond with her and go into your room and just play with her or hold her.  stuff like that.  and there is no reason that they should be baby sitting unless you in school.  other than that you should be with your baby always.  Also if i were you i would get off the comp, and sit or lay with your child.  She needs you to just be with her.

Answer 6

That is what grandparents do. You should consider yourself lucky that your parents are supporting you and the baby.

But is also important for you to bond with your baby. Set some time for just the two of you and let the grandparents take care of her when you need a break. For example, feeding time, should be yours. And so on. Good luck.

Answer 7

Since you'll be there until you're 18 I say get used to it and appreciate it.  Once you're on your own you may wish you had someone to take over.

I read your other question about your soon to be husband not spending time with you....that's really sad.  If I were you I'd think long and hard about whether I wanted to marry someone who didn't meet my emotional needs.  I know you just had a baby but you deserve better.  If you stay with him I think you need to stop trying to change him into what you want him to be.  Accept him as he is.  If he's going to go out & get a job that allows you to be home be thankful for that not every woman has that.

Answer 8

well tell them you want to spent time with ur kid today or  have a talk with them im sure they will under stand

Answer 9

ah, the perils of having a baby while you live with parents.

how about don't come out of your room in the morning.

shut your door for long 'naps' and take the baby for long walks in a stroller.  take the baby to the pool etc.  places your parents might not want to go.  show responsiblity so your parents trust you.