My parents are lying to me??

Question

they both say they think I'm pretty (trust me, I'm the farthest thing from pretty anyone can be) which is ok i guess because there my parents and they really cant say I'm butt-ugly to my face, but now there making up stories about other people saying that I'm pretty to (like some people who visited my aunts house, according to my parents they saw a picture of me on the wall and commented on how beautiful they thought i was)

I'm 100% sure there just trying to build up my self esteem, which is nice but i really don't like the way they're trying to do it

because if your parents can stand there and lie to your face, anyone can and will do it and its making me paranoid!!!

can someone please give me some advice on how to make them stop without just going up to them and saying "stop lying to me!"

something subtler please

thanks

Answer 1

To start with, 'ugly's' a strong word! u might not be as attractive as some people, but you really can't be that bad. I think you should study yourself(your face) properly..we all have at least one good facial feature! no1zz totali perfect but u cant keep dwelling on the fact that u think u're ugly! they r your parents after all and they are looking out 4 your best interest!

Answer 2

If you are a beautiful person on the inside, it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside. All anyone would see is how attractive you are.  That's why sometimes you see these really hot guys with average or below average looking girls. They see something that other people can't. Your parents and family are not lying to you. When they look at you all they see is the beautiful person you are....inside and out.

Answer 3

I wish I knew your age.  But, anyway, parents always believe that their children are beautiful.  They are not lying to you. It is the Truth for them.

Try to get the opinion from outsiders: friends, beauty specialists, teachers maybe.

Build your image.  Build your self esteem.  Learn more in beauty magazines. Use all the resources you can afford.  There is not such a thing like " ugly people" today.  Fashion, makeup, beauty parlors can do wonders for you.

Answer 4

Don't think that you aren't beautiful, there aren't any ugly people.  It is what is inside that is what makes you ugly.  You have a great personality and that is what matters.  Your parents aren't lying to you, they see the beauty you are. Don't you look like them?  I use to be a pretty decent looking younger woman and now things have changed and I don't feel as pretty.  But I do know that I am pleasant to be around and that is what matters.  Hang in there, go get a make over and buy some new clothes -  You will feel better.  Good Luck

Answer 5

ask  parents  act  like  that

Answer 6

so basically you want them to stop lying to you without telling you the truth. (trust me, even if you are ugly, it hurts like h**l if someone actually says it to you)

So what's the conclusion?

Just stop talking about it.

Don't say that you're ugly in front of them. Then they have no need to convince you, that you're beautiful. if they still do that, and you don't, then just tell them, that you're fed up with this and don't want them to try and make you feel better about yourself since it's not working.

as a stranger, I don't really know, but chances are, that your parents are right. that you are beautiful, but you just cant' see it. I'm the same. Everyone says that I'm pretty and thin, but I see myself ugly and fat and yeah, it really pisses off, when they are always trying to compare me with obese people and make me feel better about myself, while they have no idea how to do it.

still, it's important to be happy with yourself (sorry if it's starting to get offtopic), no matter how bad you look. Try writing down all your good features, starting from the top. Find something good about your hair, for example. Is the color nice? or is it long? or shiny?

Then find something good about your eyes, nose, cheeks, whatever.

And I also wanted to add, that making negative comments about yourself in front of your parents, really hurts their feelings too. You are a part of them and as you don't like yourself, they start feeling like you think the same about them, too.

Answer 7

dont listen to what they say

Answer 8

Maybe your the only one who thinks your not pretty. If your parents are telling you this, they aren't lying, they are being truthful and telling you how they see you.

Why is it you think so little of yourself?