My parents aren't supportive of my dreams?

Question

I would love to be an actress or singer, i got a guitar and i try and do drama clubs but my parents arn't supportive. I've asked for guitar and voice lessons, i asked to go to this summer camp next year for music. all my dad says is i don't take lessons and i'm not experenced enough and then this camp is for beginners to experenced people and he says i don;t take lessons, which he won't get for me. he says how do i even know if i like the guitar. and i do try and teach myself since they won't get me lessons i;ve baught books and dvds and i'm doing pretty well. My mom just was like, well it's not a real career you have to start when your younger, i know that but i also know that if you try and keep trying with a supportive family you can get anywhere what do i do?

Answer 1

My mother did the same to me, with flute, ballet & airline stewardess.

None of them were what she thought was best for me, since she was very conservative. Instead I played piano & went to nursing school, both of which I didn`t want to do & quit early on each.

NOW I have a son, first he wanted to play in a rock band, I made him take guitar lessons for 1 year, he hated them. But once he quit he excelled in the guitar, playing all different types. Now is self taught on drums. As he got older, & played music with friends he realized this wasn`t what he thought.

All this to say, if you don`t see money as a big issue, ask for things one at a time. It can be overwhelming to a parent for a child to say they want all these things in just one summer. Offer to help pay.

Sorry to ramble, but I don`t think your parents should squash your 'dreams'. Sure, maybe mom realizes the chances of you becoming a star actress/singer are slim, there are ways that you can still do the things you love.

School programs are the best, don`t know how old you are but there are plenty of great adults willing to work with you.

If you`re 'too old', thn join a larger church with a great music program, they`ll work with you too!

Talk to your guidance teacher, you need some help learning how to handle this before you have regrets!

Answer 2

Just politely make it clear that these are your dreams and you would like support, explain that you will work hard at school as well. Keep the faith, but have the security of a good education as well.

Answer 3

my parents are the same way with my skateboarding. well its actually my mom. i want to go to the x games and i want to be a great skater but she shows no interest at all. whenever i say i want to be in the x games she just laughs like ill never get there. and she always says its only one of my phases and soon i wont care about skating anymore. when i learn a new trick i dont even bother telling her any more. it makes me so made cuz this is what my passion is and she doesnt give a $hit. my dad is completely opposite though. he likes to see my tricks and brings me to the skate park. my advice to you is just keep doing what you love. dont let your parents bring you down if this is what you really want. then when you are famous one day they are gonna feel bad for not believing in you. my mom is actually what pushes me to keep trying cuz i want to prove her wrong and show what i can do! so do what you love and love what you do! im 15 so i know how you feel!

Answer 4

go talk to your school band director and see if you can learn more about music -- it does not matter what instrument you learn to play as long as you learn the theory behind it....learn one then another and then another.  Once you have some idea of what each is like to play then decide if that is what you want to do full time or part time.