My parents call me stupid I (get all As and Bs in honors classes) and tell me I won't get into college?

Question

Every day they tell me that I won't even get into a community college because I'm not very good at math. They always call me an idiot and say that I should be in a mental institution because I don't understand functions. Then they always compare me to my sister who was valedictorian (and very math-skilled), because they know I won't be it. They don't even acknowledge that I've extremely talented at all right-brained things and are ashamed to display my report card. And my mom tells all her coworkers how difficult I am and how many problems I cause. Then they send me on a daily guilt trip about how I'll put them in debt for college (granted that I get in) because I won't get any scholarships. I used to be able to handle the insults because I had a great history teacher who understood my problems. He was really the only adult that I could ever talk to. But now I don't have him and I'm crying, which is something I don't tend to do. I'm generally a very tough 16 year old, but I'm really losing it right now.

Answer 1

what kind of grades did you parents get?

id join the army or the navy or whatever and get the h**l away from these losers.

dont drop any classes.

youll get a scholarship. trust me.

your parents have problems and they are taking it out on you.

talk to your school counsellor.

find a guardian ad litum and tell them you wish to beremoved from your parents care because of the mental and emotional abuse.

i had trouble with math. i worked harder at it and i got better at it.

tutoring helps.

be a teenager, yell shut up.

your mom is a serious *****.

you arent the problem , dont let her drag you down. concentrate on grades and get out of there and dont look back.

Answer 2

Well...if you answer one math question wrong on SAT then you probably can't get into Harvard, but you can get into many other GREAT schools.  Your parents are trying to lower your self-esteem to make you do better, but studies show that kids with high self esteem get better grades.  Your best bet is to say nothing when they get mad at you and continue what you are doing to raise your self esteem and therefore, get even better grades (maybe all A's!), and when you set everything right, your parents will be happy.  The most important thing: DON'T let your parents let you down.

And about the report card thing...laminate it and STICK IT ON YOUR KITCHEN WALL WITH SUPER GLUE.  

I have this situation right now and I am 12 and a half.  I get real good grades in math, but my parents sometimes get mad at me for being unable to do a math problem for 9TH GRADERS.  They also compare me to my friends by telling me I don't do anything and they do a lot even though I am getting debate for my elective in second quarter.  I also play piano, badminton, and 7 high-school math problems per day.

Answer 3

I think your parents have a real problem. You need to see a councillor.

I know your only 16 but sounds like you need to get away form them, I think you are doing a fantastic effort with you grades.

Your parents have no right to call you those names.

Get some help.

Answer 4

2 b honest, your parents suck! THEY NEED COUNSELING.  call a teen hot line or a school counselor. i have 4 teenagers & a 20 yo.

i've never talked 2 them like that . good luck

Answer 5

Your parents are being *****. Seriously. If it was possible, I'd suggest you forget about them. Maybe, when you have a few hours to yourself, think about all their flaws until you really hate them for it. Let it stew, until you don't give a c**p what they think. Don't believe the TV shows, anger and hatred is only a bad thing when it's unrequited or when it's unneeded. And in this case, when it would help you become jaded to their disapproving c**p, it's needed.

UNLESS, of course, there's some reason to what they're saying. What are your grades, usually, aside from math?

EDIT: Wow Keegah, you're a pretty incredible idiot. Can't believe I didn't see the title. Well, that confirms it. Your parents are being unreasonable jerks. For the sake of diplomacy I'd try and voice your concerns. If they don't respond, s***w them, you don't need anyone.

Answer 6

i dont think you should listen to them. i think you should apply for college and then say "IN UR FACE" when you get accepted into it.

Answer 7

hey,if you know you're good and talented then don't let what your parents say stop you.just prove them wrong and make them eat their words.

Answer 8

you are very talented in many ways. don't let them move you like. stand up for what you believe. trust in yourself that you can be whatever it is that you want to be. don't let them put you down. because no one can make you feel inferior or low without your consent. you are smart, know that, it will take you far. focus on bettering yourself as a person and just look at the positive side sometimes. some parents are not meant to be parents or even do not deserve to be parents. you are a lovely person don't let them change that. keep getting those A's and B's. and if you fail its ok as long as you get back up again and try it one more time. you do great.

Answer 9

A and B in honors??????  THAT'S AWESOME....

you will have no trouble getting into colleges and don't believe what your folks are trying to sell you.... you are terrific, math isn't everything, and if your getting into pre calc.... she ought be slapped,

doesn't she realize that her words are what is making you "stupid"

if she was any kinda of a mother, she would:

  A> not compare you two, and realize that you are your own person with your own dreams , goals and ideal....

B.> ENCOURAGE you to be your best!!!!

and since your so stupid... she should show you how to do math...

bet she can't, then who's stupider her or you.... how about that, you can at least do that.....

C.> you blame you for a dept that you haven't even incurred is idiotic and wrong....  

so I want to challenge you to prove them wrong,  keep doing what your doing in school, try your best, grad, go to college and live YOUR dreams... then come back and say pppppppppt , look who's stupid now... as you show your first big check from that great job you have....

deal?

Answer 10

Talk about child abuse...WOW! I'm so sorry you have jerks for parents.

I know this will be very hard, but stay out of trouble and don't give them any excuse to complain about your behavior. Try (easier said then done) to ignore their constant insults. Keep reminding yourself that you are smart and you will do well in college. Work toward making a good future for yourself and to h**l with what your parents think.

Why not talk to your school counsellor. Tell him/her how your parents are treating you and you just can't handle all the insults and stress and what advice can he/she give you to cope with this situation. You need somebody you can talk to or you are going to start acting out and get into trouble. You don't want to do that to yourself, you want to get into college and make a good living some day for yourself.

If your mom thinks she's so smart and you are so dumb, then go to her with some homework problem, even though you know the answer. Tell her you need her help in explaining how to do it. When she goes off on you and tells you how stupid you are, then calmly say, "ya I know mom I'm really stupid, but I know you can show me how to do this problem, because you are a lot smarter then me. So please help me with this one problem. I guarantee you, she won't be able to help you with your homework assignment. Maybe then when she calls you stupid you can say, well at least I can do the school work of a 16 year old, you couldn't even help me with my homework assignment when I asked for your help.

I wish you the very best and seriously, try to find an adult you can talk to, you shouldn't keep all this bottled up inside of you.

Answer 11

Tell your parents to shut the f up. and if they think ur dumb, well, that's their problems!! So just ignore what they're saying to you cause they're making it worse and ruining your life. And tell them to stop comparing you to your sister. Because they're just trying to make you think your dumb, so tell them to stop talking about you to other people because that's not their business to know and your mom's coworkers are probably TIRED of your mom talking about you.