My parents disapprove....

Question

My parents disapprove of the music I listen to, the way I dress and the way I do things. How do I get them to except what I like?

Answer 1

the only person who's approval that matters is your own and if your ok with how you are that's all that matters. but for the parent thing just explain to them that it doesn't change the way you will act weather they approve or not. for example just cause you dress s**y doesn't mean you are going to have s*x with every guy in sight

Answer 2

They will never accept it if your behavior is bad.

They might could tolerate it if you are basically a good person.

Answer 3

You don't. Parents have to deal with children's differences in them and and you. It's life.

Answer 4

just explain to them y you do it or just keep doing it thats what i do haha

Answer 5

Compromising is good. For example, keep the music down. They don't like it, so don't force them to listen to it by having it blaring in your room. If they are 'adamant' about that music even being in their home, then you have to respect it. They are paying the mortgage. It's a small price to pay for peace. Listen to the music while with friends instead.

If you pay for your own clothes, compromise by buying things that you can wear when not in their presense (school, friend's house, movies, etc). If they don't see them on you, there is less room for confrontation about it. If they are paying for your clothes...again...respect it. It's their $$'s.

Sometimes it seems no matter what we do, our parents never 'get it'. You didn't say how old, but I'm going pre-teen to 18 - No matter actually. One of the things about 'being under their roof' is that it is temporary and there will be a day when you will have your own roof and the freedoms that come with that. Until then, keep the peace and be fair about it.

Best wishes

Answer 6

They are trying to live their lives through you.

They want you to be "perfect"(their version of it) so they can be all proud like they were of you before you developed your own personality.

:P

Parents feel like failures when things don't go the way they planned with their kids. They are striving not to end up like their parents did...

They may never like the music you listen to, the way you dress, but if it's YOU, then it's you....plain and simple.

Just let them know that this is just what you like, and that you're sorry, but you can't change your mind just because they don't like it. Ask them about what THEIR parents didn't like that they did. If they are honest with you, there will be something. A piercing, tattoo, boyfriends/girlfriends that their parents hated...everyone goes through it at some point.

You won't dress the same way forever, styles change, your taste in music will change, and they way you do things will be diffrent too... In a few years, it won't even matter anyways!

Answer 7

You mean "accept".

Grow a spine and stop simpering after your parents' approval.

Answer 8

try gettin a brain!!

o n by da way

stop worryin wot dey fink

ITS UR LYF NOT DERS

DUH!!

Answer 9

parents will get over it eventaully as long as your not destructive. but in the mean time lets Talk :D

aim- xslipknotfreak46

yahoo messenger - xxslipknotfreak46

Answer 10

my mom grew up in los angeles, and my dad in utah, so although my dad dont say anything about how i dress, my mom thinks its alright. you just have to tell them that the way you dress cant be changed. tell her to try and change her looks, its hard. so yea, just tell her, in fact just dont tell her anything. if she brings it up just say you like it

Answer 11

Hun, they most likely will never approve. Just try to do without their approval... except for maybe dress, you might want to listen to them a little (not too much... my mom thinks clothes from the 90's are "in").

Most of our lives we're looking for someone who "gets" us so don't be surprised if you parents don't "get" you. You'd be lucky if you parents were very approving.

The best way for them to, at the very least, respect your decisions is to talk to them like an adult (no emotion, calmly). This might not work though (my mom is especially stubborn, even though I'm 20!... my mom still thinks I'm an idiot though I take responsibility and do nothing that shortens my life or anything... annoying.). If not then experiment a little. People are different.