My parents don't want me to go to school! How do i convence them?

Question

Im homeschooled i have been since half of first grade. i want to go to school in the fall. im suppose to be going to ninth but i wanna go to eighth because highschool is a big step compared to not going to school like all my life ! Anyways, Our whole family are christians BIG TIME my dad won't let me listen to real bad rap or real bad pop i feel like an outsider half the time. My dad thinks that i will stop being a Christan if i go to school cause i will be like the world. I don't know what to do how do i convence them to let me go?

Answer 1

Go into ninth garde not eigth.  You will catch up soon enough.  Being a grade behind your age group will hold you back much more in the long run.  Tell him you are getting to the age where you need lots of teachers each with a college degree in what they teach in order to learn what you need to learn now.  Tell him you want friends but you will look for ones that share you values.  Find out if the school has a chrstian group or club or something then tell him you would join that.

Answer 2

Well, sweetie, your parents' concern is valid - they want to protect you from bad influences, and if you are around bad influences then YES you will become like them.  

Is there a place in between that would suit both of you better?  Maybe a Christian school or a homeschool co-op.  I do know that as hs'd kids become teenagers that they need more contact with the outside world, and if your parents would enroll you in a few things maybe you'd be more content.

Answer 3

Under the circumstances I think the only possible way you could convince them is if there was a strict Christian school you could go to, otherwise from your description it sounds like a lost cause.

Answer 4

Well you could go to an all Christans school because it is normal school but it is for Christans =]

Answer 5

well the world is full of bad people who can spoil you i think your dad is so afraid about you but you have the right to go to shool so try to talk to him and tell him that you want to see the rail world because soon or later you will go out and if you didn't get now you won't be abl to deal with the world tell and ask him to put you under a test for awhile and your behavior will be the judge i hope i had helped you with these words

Answer 6

Well, I don't think exposure to illicit music is going to convince them that you're right.  It could be just me, but I think that one's a long shot.  :)

Honestly, it sounds like the only reason that you want to go to public school is because you feel "out of the loop" with people that you don't really respect anyway - people that do things that contradict your belief system.  The grass isn't any greener on the other side of the schoolyard fence, and your parents, likely having graduated from public school, know this to be true.  If you wanted to attend because the school was fabulous and you'd have all sorts of opportunities, or because it's impossible to participate in extracurriculars or sports outside of the one school in town, that would be one thing.  

However, enrolling in school simply to fit in with kids that don't make terribly great choices isn't really a reason.  I know that 13-14 is a rough age, and that you want to fit in, but you need to really take a look at things and figure out what your priorities are.  Is your Christianity important to you - and if so, why is listening to "really bad pop" something that you want to do?  

I think your dad's right in thinking that you'll start being like the world - you've said it here yourself that that's why you feel left out.  It doesn't sound like you've got things down very firmly as far as what you've decided is important...and until you do, I've got to say I agree with your dad.  Until you can show responsibility for your own actions and show wisdom in your decision-making, it really is your parents' job to make those decisions for you.

Answer 7

depending where you live,there might be christian schools,otherwise i bet homeschooling is fun,in public high school ur just a number where no one knows you.If youve been homeschooled practically ur whole life then ull have a really tough time in public.Researchers have said homeschooled kids are way smarter tan public school kids.

If your really desperate and u have no social life than good luck.

Whats so great about bad rap anyways?

Answer 8

Well hun, you really don't wanna go to public school after being homeschooled all your life. I've also been homeschooled since 1st grade, but since 5th grade I've been in a 2 day a week homeschool group, I hated it there and talked to my mom and dad about it. When my parents herd that I wasn't just lazy, but my teachers didn't teach anything, and that I was being made fun of for being Catholic and I didn't fit in we looked into some private schools in the area. We picked out a good school that we could afford to send me to and that is where I'll be starting this fall! I'm going to highschool this year and am very excited! My advice is to just talk to your parents and come to a comprimise! Tell them that a real school will get you ready for the real world in a controlled enviroment. Tell them that you want some friends to habgout with. As for the music, no matter what school your in, you don't HAVE to listen to bad music. Learn from Mitchie Torres in Camp Rock. DON'T FIT IT. STAND OUT! I hope I helped you hun! I went through the same thing! Oh one more very importint thing! DON'T WHINE TO YOUR PARENTS! IT WILL NOT HELP YOUR CASE!!!!!!!

Answer 9

arent there religous schools? like christian high schools and middle schools. that way your outside meeting people and your going to a chrisitan school!!!  so there won't be many bad influences there. probably they wont listen to rap and all that (i hate rap), but probably some rock, like from 106.7 F.m K-Roq or 98.7 FM.

Answer 10

Well, why do YOU want to go to school? There are probably other ways to have that want met than attending a public high school. I know parents who are not Christian who still don't want their kids attending the local high schools--it's hard to stand your ground when you're young and impressionable and want to be liked and approved of.

There are also plenty of public schooled kids who are not allowed to listen to bad rap or bad pop--there's nothing wrong with being an outsider because of it. THINK about it for a moment--what is RIGHT in the long run? To do questionable things, to listen to questionable things, just so you're like everybody else, or to have some integrity and be different as a result? What kind of person do YOU want to be?

I'm sorry that this doesn't help you convince your dad. I think it's unlikely you will convince him in this case. You might be able to get him to agree to a very good Christian school, but other than that...

Answer 11

Well, as someone recently out of public highschool, I can tell you your parents concerns, sadly, are valid. School is dangerous, and you should thank them for trying to provide you with a learning environment where you can study without fear of violence.

And as to the music, he IS right...in a way. What you put IN to your mind is eventually what comes OUT. He is right to protect you. He obviously loves you a lot.

That said, I can imagine how hard it must feel to be excluded. I homeschool my kids now, and I have to take extra care to make sure they are involved in activities and have plenty of socializing opportunities. How about a compromise, where you STAY in homeschool, but they have to provide minimum socialization activities for you, such as a dance class, time for a homeschool group (just do an internet search for one in your area), time to learn an instrument, etc.

That way you are getting the best of BOTH worlds...a safe and productive learning environment, but also time to just been a teen and have fun, you know?

Best of luck, sweetie!