My parents found a condom in my room?

Question

im 18 turning 19 and my boyfriend is 19 and were both going to colloege and we both have jobs...my mom found a condom in my room and she told my dad, now my dad told me that id have to live with my cousin for now which is 30 min. away from my boyfriend and is closer to my campus...my dad doesnt want me to see my boyfriend since school is starting but i told him before that we wanted to be together before school starts, tomorrow is our 7th month and im not gonna be able to see him because my dad told my cousin to pick me up tomorrow...i dont know that to do...my dad still thinks that he still controls my life, he was never there for me for 14 years of my life

heres also another thing...he is not the one whose paying for my college, my credit card, my phone, my allowance...my cousin is

and i dont think why my dad still thinks he controls me...i really wanna be with my boyfriend because we love eachother and we plan to live together sometime in the future, were in a comitted relationship...i just wanna let my dad know that hes wrong and he needs to trust me...

Answer 1

i agree- you can do whatever you want- however, are they having a problem accepting that you're sexually active? tell them- at least you're being smart about it! have a conversation with them about at least being smart enough to use protection!!! would they rather be grandparents? or find a condom in your room?

Answer 2

You can do whtever you want girl.. Do as you please

Answer 3

Well if you put your dirty laundry away where it's suppose to go, then this wouldn't be going on right now. You Dad is concerned that you may put your BF ahead of college like most young girls do. Tell your BF that you both need to cool off for awhile till things get back to normal and then pick up where you guys left off at. At least your using protection which is a smart idea and a good thing to practice. Your Daddy's little girl and you always will be. I had a hard time of it when my daughters started dating and messing around with their BF. I didn't like it one bit, but it's a part of life that us Dads can either accept and go along with our daughters decisions that they do the right thing and be careful or we can live in denial about it.

Answer 4

just tell him you guys are planning ahead

Answer 5

i am now 1 2 tell u what 2 do because i am only 17 but in your case i think u should tell your dad that when i lived with u i was on your will but now i a a grownup women and my live isnow mine i pay all for my self and if u wanna help me i accept your help but i am grown enof 2 take care of me not becaous u r a women means that your father have 2 control your life tell him that u love your bf and u prefare 2 use a condon for not geting pregnant inted of risking your wealth by not using it try 2 comunicate more with your father and mom they will understend that. now if that doesnt work get a depart ment and live with your bf and divid the cost of the depart ment like if u 2 were maride. i hope i help good luk with your dad.

Answer 6

like the earlier post said...you are of legal age

and also be sure to mention that you love your boyfriend, and that you want things like s*x to happen in a careful, and safe manner

Answer 7

live on your own.

Answer 8

Well, legally, you can do whatever you want. You're 18.  

Answer 9

are you joking

who will spend money on you

who will feed you

????

your family will so be with your family and i think stying with your cousin will not solve ur problem

maybe he is bad so stay with your bf and kick ur father

Answer 10

Wow... You really know how to bring us around the world and back again. May I know what is your headline initially? So what happen to the condom? You never even bother to explain did you guys have s*x and who the condom belong to?

Answer 11

you should tell him that you love your boyfriend

explain to your father how your boyfriend is not "porking-and-leaving" you

if he's committed to you explain it to your dad, show that he's not in the relationship just for the intimate moments

tell him everything that your boyfriend does for you

explain to your father what kind of future plans you have with him WITHOUT going too far

you dont want him thinking you've fallen for a guy that has control over you