My parents found out i'm on the pill?

Question

My parents are old-fashioned and christian so the idea of contraceptives don't go down well with them. I'm 17 and a virgin but recently started taking the pill to calm down my heavy periods. I went to the doctor on my own and didn't tell my parents. Today they found the pills in my purse and exploded. My mum accused me of sleeping around (i have no intention of doing this) and being sexually active. She accused me of lying when i stated my real reason for the pill. What can i do to convince them of the truth?

Answer 1

Tell them to call your doctor and ask her for themselves.

Answer 2

Let them accompany you to the doc for a checkup to validate your story and when they have discovered the truth demand an apology and their complete trust.

Remember that the pill does not stop STD's so if you may think it is safe to have s*x then think again.

Your parents are just concerned for you. Nothing beats talking to them.

Answer 3

I would just continue stating your case. If not fully educated on the issues get as educated as possible that way you have an answer to any possible questions. EVEN the ones of you ever possibly becoming sexually active. Tell them that your main true reason is for your periods, but you also research the fact of protection because you are a mature adult who feels you should be educated on the things your putting into your body.

You could also make your mum go with you to your doc's office. Have him explain to her that your interest and taking of the pill has almost nothing to do with s*x or wanting to have s*x. He/she will probably be better at explaining this to your mum. If you go to church and re close with your pastor you could also speak with him. Maybe if you explain the issue with him and then he explains it to your parents they will have more understanding hearing it from his lips.

You have to understand that part of the accusing is probably due to the fact that you didn't share the issue with your mother in the first place. She probably think you are lying about the s*x because she wasn't told about the situation in the first place.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

Sit them down and talk to them.

I understand that you probably have tried to talk to them but that was when emotions were still in top gear.

Just sit down with your mom and tell her that you haven't been "sleeping around" and you need to the pill to calm down your heavy periods.

Tell her that you felt if you went to her about it, she wouldn't have understood that thats why u needed to go by yourself.

Explain to her that the pill is for nothing more then controling your periods, even take her to the doctor with you and maybe have the doctor explain it to her.

Answer 5

if they don't believe you there is nothing that you can do.  you are almost 18 and by that point you have the right to do whatever you wish.

Answer 6

So how long until you are 18?

You should have your doctor talk to your parents.

And, there is no "virginity test", doctors can only tell if you've had s*x if you've done it within 48 hours of the appointment.

So you can either keep trying to hide your pills (though I've said time and again that if you try to go behind their back they will find out somehow, and they did!), or stop taking them, and when you are 18 go and get them yourself and tell your parents you are 18 now and can do whatever you want.

Answer 7

So, now that you are "caught" and your "mum" doesn't believe you, what do you think of letting her talk to your doctor that prescribed them? This way she would get a professionals point of view on the using the pill to help with heavy periods.  Ultimately in my opinion you seem to be a responsible and reasonable person that has good judgement - so, if you can afford to take care of the matter on your own, I guess all you can do is try to express your intentions & feelings to your parents & hope that they can see your side - you know, the "big picture".  Good luck to you!  

Answer 8

you can go to the doctor and get the doctor to tell them that your a virgin

oh and that really sucks i'm sorry my mom would be so pissed

Answer 9

I think you should have a long talk with them about it and tell them that they can trust you.  

Answer 10

tell them you went to the doctor and find the receipt

if they really want more information, they can call in to your doctor and make sure it's for what you say it is

Answer 11

See if they'll go down to the doctor with you so you could have the doctor explain to them why this is necessary. Actually a lot of sexually inactive women are on birth control just to control their periods. You may want to present this information to your parents as well. It's going to be rough since they already feel betrayed, but I'm sure that if you explain it to them enough, and back it up with solid facts, they'll eventually understand.

Answer 12

Well honestly it isn't any of their business so long as you are paying for them

Answer 13

Get a note from your doctor verifying that you are still a virgin, or have your mom call the doctor and ask--though if your doctor is worth anything he or she will not give out your information over the phone. You could go IN and sign a release however.  

Answer 14

Not a damned thing.  

Frankly you should have gone to your mother and told her of your menstrual problems.  If the doctor was going to recommend BCPs, the recommendation would have sat better with her from the doctor than finding out you "snuck" the pill.

And you can always counter with the fact that IF (and remind her that it is a HUGE "IF") you were going to be sexually active....which you ARE NOT....at least you're being responsible!!  In a year, you'll be an adult and you can tell her to p**s off...

Answer 15

you have to understand their reaction... they feel you are sneaking around. if i was them, i would be suspicious too. you really should have at least talked to them first.... now the best you can do, is deal with it.

Answer 16

Go to the doctor and ask them to run a virginity test on you. Then your parents will have to say they where wrong and they are sorry. (Which also makes them trust you more!)

Answer 17

There is plenty of information on the Net to support you.

I'd also play it like this: " I don't know why you seem to want to think the worst of me. I know you are trying to protect me but I am telling you the truth. Why do you think I am lying to you?"

A bit of guilt goes along way with parents,lol.

Answer 18

Take your mum to the doctors with you and ask them to verify the reason why you have been put on the pill.

Answer 19

Have your doctor call them.

Answer 20

No need to convince them, they probably made up their mind.

It is an excuse used often. I used it myself when I wanted to go on the pill. Like you I was not sexually active at the time. I just wanted to be sure I was on the pill in case something did happen.

It is probably an issue you will not agree on with your parents, if they are old fashioned Christian. Dont bother, you are old enough to make your own decisions based on your own reasons. Doesnt really have much to do with them, does it? Your parents should be confident that they raised you to be an adult person that can take your own decisions.

Answer 21

One option is to have your GYN confirm to your parents that you are not sexually active and to explain to them the reason for prescribing you the pills. Hopefully they'll understand.

Answer 22

It's a matter of time that she will know ur real intentions, but do not put your self in the position of defending as if u r guilty, just be calm and under stand the difference in mentality between two different generations, your mom is worried about you but she thinks she is doing it the right way to protect you from mistakes, do not know if it is good or not to prove u r still virgin by letting her check  your hymen, but if this is the only way, try it, but on the other hand insist that you are not going to defend your self every time she is suspicious about your behave, but do it gently and slowly do not fight or got nervous

Answer 23

Have her call a nurse or your doctor and have them explain the need for BC for periods... I was on them for awhile for that reason alone.  I had horrible 2 week-long pms, skipped periods, never knew when I was getting them... the BC fixed that.

Ask them if they want you to suffer from period issues.  Tell them that if you were going to go sleep around you would do it regardless, and that they should trust you.

They are very close minded and not using any common sense if they cannot understand your reasons.