My parents have no trust in me at all, but I've never done anything bad?

Question

Okay, so my parents have NO trust in me what-so-ever. I've never done anything bad, no detention/suspension, lowest grade ever was a C, and I've never gone beyond kissing. My parents though, will not let me see boys outside my house and school. Tomorrow I have 1 day off where I get the whole house to myself, and my dad wants me to go to work with him because he's afraid I'll throw some wild party or something (I've never done drugs or gotten high or gone to a party in my life). How do I gain their trust because I feel trapped, but I'm a really good person. I'm only 15, so bare that in mind. Thank you!

Answer 1

I have the same problem. It really suck when your friends get to go to all these places and youre the only one left out.

Yeah yeah yeah you can respect them and stuff but that doenst help.

I even asked them once. I said "Why dont you let me do anything? Ive never done drugs or anything? I dont sneak out or do stupid things."

The same thing...Im still stuck.

So i guess, theres nothing you can do. Just wait till youre older and make them feel SUPER guilty about your childhood. Rub it i their face. Tell them that you wont allow their grandchildren to spend time with them because you dont want your children to end up hating themselves like you did.

LOL. just something to think about...

Answer 2

Show them this issue is important to you and be surprisingly mature about the matter.

My advice:  ask them to set aside a time when you can talk to them alone.  As in "Can we talk in my room tonight at 9 pm?  Just the 3 of us?"

Then, have your speech prepared.... Everything you just said sounds like a good start.  You can also remind them that strict or not, if you wanted to do all that party/drugs/boy crazy stuff, you'd find away.  (I'm living proof =)

If they still don't give in, ask them if you can do something to prove responsibility like be a candy-striper at the hospital, volunteer at a community center, etc.  

Good luck!

Answer 3

By respecting them, and following their rules to a T, you will earn their trust. They are worried that you might leap at a chance to finally be able to "do" what your little heart desires, since you're on your own. and though they DO trust you, to some extent at least (otherwise, they would have not entrusted you to babysit your siblings) they do not trust that you will pass the temptations that a boy may put you in, if you're not within their earshot and eyesight while you hang out with boys.

Answer 4

It sucks that your parents don't trust you. Maybe you can offer to pick up an extra chore or two around the house to show your maturity and hope to gain some sort of independence.

Maybe start by asking to stay home alone during the day and work your way up to being allowed to stay home alone at night.  

Answer 5

I have the same exact problem . Except I'm 17. I have never done anything wrong in my life , no detentions or suspensions .I have never done anything to lose their trust also. I have good grades too. I too have a younger brother who I'm responsible for , I watch him every day of my life. What we have in common is that our parents refuse to realize that we are not children any more and they need to let us grow up. Our parents are overprotecting.  I too am not allowed to see boys.  I think they wont let me see them because they are afraid that I will get pregnant  and they don't want some guy all over their daughter. So I assume you parents feel the same way as mine do.  My parents are overly protective when it comes to guys but i think its because they had me before marriage and they don't want me to have what happened to them to happen to me . Is it possible your parents had you or another sibling on accident.